I posted earlier about this guy who's always flirting with me. According to the replies I got from my earlier post, this guy likes me. Quick update - I still haven't made a move and I haven't asked him out because I'm still not conviced that he does like me. I think he's just a big flirt. Yes, he jokes around with me in class but he likes to flirt with others outside of class. A few days ago, a friend of mine spoke to him. She told him that we weren't going to be in class the following week and he asked why. She told him that we had wedding preparations to take care of - which was true. He asked who was getting married and she pointed at me so I went along with it. His tone totally changed. He asked me if it was true but i pretended like i didn't hear him and started to walk away. He started yelling and when i didn't respond, he ran after me. He asked me again and asked who the guy was. The look on his face - i wasn't sure if he was shocked or happy. I felt bad so I told him it wasn't true. We laughed about it and he looked relieved. Did i go too far? does his reaction mean anything?
Thanks for the advice Emma. To be honest, I'm not sure if I do like him or not. I just wanted someone else's p.o.v of the situation. He did ask me out a few weeks ago but I turned him down. I like having him as a friend but if it turns into something else... who knows :)
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Shae, have more confidence girl!
It seems you're over analysing everything - you're observing his behaviour waaaay too much instead of just taking a chance. You are, in fact, talking yourself out of making a move, looking for reasons why you wouldn't be anything special out of the other girls in his eyes... it all points to lack of self-esteem to me which is never good :(
Go with your first instinct, something must be there for you to give asking him out some consideration, else why would the thought enter your head? Now, it seems you're worried of what to say, whether you'd make a fool of yourself but hey! They don't call it "taking a chance" for nothing, there's a chance you got the wrong end of the stick but at worst he'd like you only as a friend... friends aren't a bad thing to have, I know you're looking for more but at least you'd know for sure how he feels...
I suggest the next time you see him, you casually ask him out to lunch, for a drink or something... all of this beating around the bush makes things awkward & confusing so take a deep breath, have some confidence & see how he reacts.
If he's not interested, it's his loss right... there are plenty of other decent guys out there. Just don't leave things as they are, regrets are horrible things to have & you could be missing out on something really good if only you'd let your guard down for just a minute :)
LOVE QUESTIONS & ANSWERS: Love Q & A : Get your love & relationship questions answered - NEW!! Love Q&A Forum | Old Love Q&A Love Pros : Professional Help with love's challenges & relationships
