well first of all everyone knows how it is to be in a teen relationship with a boy. which is exactly what im in. The hard thing about it is , is that my parents hate my boyfriend that i have had for over 2 years now. The sad thing is that my parents have never even seen him either. They judge him because im white and he is black. well i hardly get to see him because he lives in a town about 15 min away from me and plus my mom makes it hard! his ex girl calls me sayin he still with her but he makes me believe him. i really want to trust him. and another thing is that he hasnt been calling me lately and when i do talk to him he wants money. I know you think hes using me for my money but he totally denies that. He is so sweet to me. he was my first. i try to talk to him about our relationship but i dont know what to say if someone could kinda give me some tips i would appreciate it.U have to understand I want to make this work..please help
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--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Beebee,
The others are right; you are being used. What more does it take than to have his Ex Girlfriend actually call "your house" and tell you? I think you get the drift...
For one, and maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't dare ever ask my girlfriend for money for no reason what-so-ever! -- It's worse than asking a nome-virgin to be intimate with you on the first date. The way I see it: you should be asking HIM for money. Just great: a new stereotype for men.
But I want you to try something to test his fidelity and feelings for you. I want you to "Just Say No" when he ask for any material things (such as your money). After a while, I can guarantee you that his true-interest will be revealed. I mean, you "DO" know that true love don't require someone's money, right?
What More Can I Say?
However things work out in the end, you really need to be smarter when it comes to dating -- though I can't say it would be any different with a white male, being that I'm black myself and I wouldn't dare "think" being like him. But DO learn from your mistakes; -- this is your first boyfriend, so you are more vulnerable than someone who has much experience in dating. You heard it all.
Good Luck... JonathanReed@excite.com
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Gregg's right Beebee - I think you know already that he's using you & for whatever reason you don't want to let go but here's the deal - first rule of relationships - don't accept a lack of trust. Without that, what else is there?
No matter how much YOU want the relationship to work, you both need to share this desire - otherwise it's not a relationship worth saving. Face up to it now & save yourself anymore heartache, this guy isn't right for you & he doesn't respect you. In my book that makes him a big time loser - you can do much better :)
Good luck -
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 - Wake up
Answer by: Gregg@LoveIsGreat.com
Beebee, it does sound like he is playing you and using you for money. Wake up!
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