what do guys think when a girl doesnt know how to do sexual things.....i.e.... oral sex, sex in general, that kind of stuff. because I am so clueless as to what to do and guys I know are really experienced. and there is one guy that I have a feeling I will be getting to know better and eventually we will hook up but he is so experienced and I know nothing and I dont know how to bring thisup orwhat he will thnk of me. I dont want him to think I am a baby. please give me any helpful advice..umm....if it helps to know I am 20 years old....ok thanks!
p.s. I am sorry this is a sex question but there is no where else to go with it.......
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--- Tuesday, November 2, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
I agree with Jonathan.
Sorry, no offense there ShadyGirl, but you are basically asking in your post on how to get hurt really, really bad. And that's none of my business. However, this is an advice forum, and that's what I'm here for -- to give people advice. So I'm going to give you my input here nevertheless. Your post has to do with sex and sex alone. If you "hook up" with this "experienced" guy, that's exactly what he will use you for -- sex. Don't even think that if you have sex with him without going through the stages of a relationship that he will stick around. He may just have a wham, bam, thank you ma'mn. I'm serious. Sex is emotional for females -- for males it is emotional when they are in love... but without that love it is screwing and that's about it.
I think you should realize also that this is not the 1800's... You have so many rights now as a woman, and female empowerment is now recommended... I suggest that you either ask yourself what you're really getting into here, and that you question your self-esteem -- and you start thinking more highly of yourself.
I don't know if you're a virgin, but you are definitely unexperienced. I'm not saying these things to hurt you -- I want you to realize that if you based a relationhip with a guy on sex that's what you're going to get. Guys aren't complex beings like women -- they are really quite simple and they don't over-analyze like women do. Base a realtionship on sex, and he will use you for that. It will NOT evolve into love or anything of that sort.
So... unless you don't want to get hurt and used as a toy -- don't sleep with this guy, and take the time to develop relationships.
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi ShadyGirl,
But forget that...
I aint gone even lie, but to say you are twenty years old, you still have alot of growing up to do. How about not even considering to have sex with this "experienced" guy any time soon. You say that you don't know what he will think of you? I'll tell you one thing for sure: being intimate so soon with this guy will make him think lowly of you -- that is if he's highly interested in a "non-sexual" way already. And if sex is all this guy is up for, you shouldn't be with him anyway; and I really hope you're not doing this because you're feeling pressured in some way, are you?
What More Can I Say?
Seems to me that you are hanging with the wrong crowd, but who am I to tell you who YOU can be around. However, my advise should "hopefully" help you in the long run when it comes to dealing with men. I'm not here to judge you, your boyfriend or friends because that's not my position; just use wisdom and do the right thing. You heard it all...
Good Luck... JonathanReed@excite.com
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 -
Answer by: beebee
Well gurl i have the same problem. I been with my boyfriend for 2 years and here recently i lost my virginity to him. i was so clueless. He wanted oral sex and i did it but i had no clue what i was doing. I laughed at myself so if you find out some tips plz email me and tell me them cause i need to know myself. dashella_jones@yahoo.com
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