i've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. Its very hard making this relationship work because im white and he's black. My parents are really against it. But i love him so much on da real. He was my ''first''. He makes me feel like the most special white girl on dis earth when we are together. But all he seems to want is sex and money. He doesnt even call me i have to call him and when i call he asks for money. He tells me he loves me . I told him i thought he was using me for my money and he got all mad and said it wasnt true. Then his ex girlfriend be calling my house saying he's still with her. but he said its just because she wants him back. So i dont know what to believe. Then my cousin April that had even got us together rode by his house and saw anotha black girl sitting on his lap and i called and asked him about it and he said it was his cousin. And of course i cussed him out so he just hung up. Well i called him back like a week later because i really missed him and he hadn't called me. and he acted like everything was cool. and asked me for money! and it was a day before my birthday. and he knew that..i told him all i had was my b-day money and he wanted it!! i was like WTF... he didnt even call me and say happy birthday. but then again he never calls me!! I really love him alot. and he claims he loves me..I know everyone thinks i should dump him and everything. but i cant..i dont have the strength to, when im not with him it feels like im dying. the last time we broke up i tryed to talk to other guys but i couldnt stop thinking about him when i was talking to other guys. I dont know what to do someone please give me some advice to say to him or something.. thanks, beebee
Responses to this article:
--- Tuesday, November 2, 2004 - Pimpin'
Answer by: Sam
Girl, dis sucka is using you fo' shizzle!
(I'm just kidding)
But honestly, he IS using you and you are letting him. Any guy that asks you for money all the time is just using you, period. I mean, that's just common sense. No wonder your parents don't approve, this guy is all about pimpin' and 'da hussle.
I really don't know what else to say here, except that if you continue to stick around, this guy is going to continue to use you and yes... cheat on you. He is a liar with no care or concern for you or women period.
If you know what's good for you, get this guy out of your life, period. Wedding bells aren't dancing in this guy's head -- dollar signs are.
Wake up and erase this guy from your life.
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 - sun glasses
Answer by: fallonwebster
if he loved you he wouldnt treat you this way and it takes two people to make a relationship work. plus you sound like a girl who is way too smart to be letting someone use you, i know love is blinding, so wear sun glasses and dump the user. Also there s a childs book called "if you give a mouse a cookie" read it, and you'll understand why i recommended it in you case.
--- Sunday, October 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Beebee (again),
Check your previous post for my reply...
But in a nut shell, this guy IS using you! I mean come on; he don't call you for a week and when you call him (yeah - you had to call HIM), he ask for your birthday money! Then didn't call to even wish you happy birthday!!! E-mail me and remind me to pray for you before bed tonight.
I'm going to be real with you. This guy probably goes to his friends and/or "other girlfriends" house every day and tell them how he's using you for money and sex -- giving YOU a bad name. And you? You're clueless, still seeking love from him, which was never there...
"Face reality because you can't face love that doesn't exist on both sides," am I correct? You heard it all...
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