I am in love with this guy that i plan on marrying in about 6 months. He loves me with all of his heart but there are some serious problems involved. We have been dating 9 months now and the last 5 have been a long distance relationship. The first month we were going out he cheated on me twice to be exact and we broke up for a few months. Well he moved and about a month later he called me crying and said he loved me and was sorry and we got back together. I talk to him and know his family well so I know that he isn't or hasn't cheated since then I just worry and feel like I sometimes rush the marriage process to make myself feel more secure. I feel like it's a guarentee it wont happen again if we are married. How do I feel secure with him without forcing him to marry me today instead of when we planned?
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--- Monday, November 1, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi FallonWebster,
There's no reason to force yourself to feel secure; you're letting your feeling take control of you. I'd say you should hold the marriage off for a while to be sure that he don't cheat again because if he's capable of doing it outside of marriage, he's more than capable of doing it in the marriage, which is even worse: adultery. If he loves you he needs to prove it in action - not just verbally. Love is patient, so if he really loves you, he'll make it through -- trust me. This is "his" test so don't make it a bit easy; especially if you plan to the long haul with him.
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