ok i have a really messed up question. I met this really awesome guy on the internet we talked for a few months then finally met. We went out a couple of times and then we had sex. That same night i found out he was my third cousin. I'm very upset, not at the fact that we had sex but i still want to be with him and i am very confused at this point. I dont know what to think or what to do. I know thats its wrong because im kinda related to him but i cant stop thinking about it and i do want to be with him. Please help me. Sarah
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--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 - ok but..
Answer by: stiffmeis
morally and legally wrong..? But laws are just rules set up by a bunch of ppl a long time ago.. Who is to say what is right and wrong but you? As for morally wrong, what I consider morally wrong could be morally right to you, it's all a difference of opinion. If you think dating your sister is ok then go for it.. Isn't that what the Kings did in England, and if I'm not mistaken also in Egypt? And the Egyptians were considered one of the greatest civilizations.. All in all the end result of you dating this guy is up to you. If you think that this whole siutation is alright, or if you think you can deal with it then go for it. If not then don't bother trying.. goodluck
--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 - What!!!!
Answer by: lady tee
I really don't know what to say about this one. But I will tell u like this. While u and this guy were just talking, did ever ask him about his family and who he was related to? How could u make the mistake by finding out that you guys were 3rd cousins?!! Well,in my opinion, if you had known that you guys were 3rd cousins would u still had talked to him? But, now since you guys have already had sex, you might as well stay with him. Besides you say that you really want to be with this guy, right? So, talk to your boyfriend about it and you both should come to a final decision.
--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well... I have a different perspective... while you dating your third cousin isn't as taboo in our culture as you dating your first cousin -- it really all depends on YOUR culture. In some Hawaiian culture for example, cousins are considered to be siblings. So... I don't know what your culture is or whether you dating even your third cousin is acceptable. In our society as I have said, it isn't as much as a big deal, but it is still a bit strange in my opinion. There still are related genes even if they happen to be a third cousin. My suggestion is depending on your culture, talk to your family and see what they have to say about it.
--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well... I have a different perspective... while you dating your third cousin isn't as taboo in our culture as you dating your first cousin -- it really all depends on YOUR culture. In some Hawaiian culture for example, cousins are considered to be siblings. So... I don't know what your culture is or whether you dating even your third cousin is acceptable. In our society as I have said, it isn't as much as a big deal, but it is still a bit strange in my opinion. There still are related genes, even if they happen to be a third cousin. My suggestion is depending on your culture, talk to your family and see what they have to say about it.
--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well... I have a different perspective... while you dating your third cousin isn't as taboo in our culture as you dating your first cousin -- it really all depends on YOUR culture. In some Hawaiian culture for example, cousins are considered to be siblings. So... I don't know what your culture is or whether you dating even your third cousin is acceptable. In our society as I have said, it isn't as much as a big deal, but it is still a bit strange in my opinion. There still are related genes, even if they happen to be a third cousin. My suggestion is depending on your culture, talk to your family and see what they have to say about it.
--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well... I have a different perspective... while you dating your third cousin isn't as taboo in our culture as you dating your first cousin -- it really all depends on YOUR culture. In some Hawaiian culture for example, cousins are considered to be siblings. So... I don't know what your culture is or whether you dating even your third cousin is acceptable. In our society as I have said, it isn't as much as a big deal, but it is still a bit strange in my opinion. There still are related genes, even if they happen to be a third cousin. My suggestion is depending on your culture, talk to your family and see what they have to say about it.
--- Sunday, October 3, 2004 - It is okay
Answer by: Gregg@LoveIsGreat.com
A person who is your third cousin is morally and legally okay to be with. So it isn't wrong at all. If the person is immediate family, that is legally and morally wrong. And first cousins are borderline. Out from that, it is okay. The gene pool is diverse enough.
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