Hello, I've been confused about this guy that I work with. He's asked me out then we don't go out. He gets hot and cold. He's told me that I'm attractive and that he wants to get to know me better but never takes me out. He's told me that he's scared because we work together and he does not want people to find out and get in out business. Well after awhile of playing this game he pulled the 'I just want to be friends speech.' Well I was upset but was going to get over it. Then a day after he gave this speech he called me so I asked him why he was calling me. I said that when people usually say let's be friends they mean that they don't want to call you and talk. He answered saying that nothing has changed. So anyways I left it at that and he kept calling me and text messaging me. I kept ingnoring his calls & messages for about a week. Well he wasn't too happy about this and he text message me saying hi andasking how things were going with me but it didn't matter since I wasn't talking to him. Well I called him after this message and we talked for a little bit. He said that he thought that him and I were on the same page and that we were going to take things slow. Well things were going great after that then he stopped calling as much but he did email at least once a day at work though. Well i was getting sick and tired if this game that he was playing and I called him and asked him what was going on. He had an excuse that things at work were not going well. I was quite annoyed by this and gave him the friends speech a couple of days after talking to him. Well he went to China on a business trip and when he came back I assumed that he wasn't interested in me. then he started sending me emails and text messaging me. Well the last text message he sent was that he thought that I looked like jennifer love hewitt. Now I'm a little confused by this. Why does he act hot and cold? He can't be that into me if he acts the way he does, right? Is he trying to be nice since we work together and he doesn't want any confrontation @ work? I also am assuming that he's talking to me and sending me text messages because we are going on vacation in a couple of months. I'm just confused by this guy and the thing that really stinks is that I do really like him. I think that there is something there but I think that I should let him go for now, right? I'm sorry for sounding confusing with all these questions.
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--- Monday, November 22, 2004 - let em go
Answer by: beebee
macabre is exactly right. you need to let him go. he is just playing mind games with you. He is wanting you one day & wanting to be friends the next. well you need to stand up and tell him to either make a decision. and since you have feelings for him like you do. it is almost impossible to be friend's with him...obviously really though you just need to let him go..if you look like jennifer love hewitt obviously you can do better thanks, beebee
--- Monday, November 22, 2004 - Indecisive
Answer by: Macabre
He obviously doesnt know what he wants, its a simple as that. Your right in that you should let him go, for good. If you dont, its only going to continue this way, hot and cold, on and off, indecisive. Let him go, move on...hes going to say hes sorry, that things have gotten better, that we wants to meet; but keep in mind, he doesnt know what he wants. Dont let him indirectly or directly hurt you by playing with you...good luck and best wishes. -Macabre
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