ok 1st of all thanks 4 reading dis... i was wid a boy for 2 yrs. we had alot of problems. He was my 1st & we just had alot of problems thru da relationship.but i luv him So much. well finally about 2 wks ago i decided 2 try 2 move on. well now i have a new b/f. he treats me like a queen. He would do n-e thing 4 me..well.2 day my 1st called me crying b/c he had found out i moved on.dat just melted me down.but i didnt lie. & i told him dat i did find sum1 else. So he hung up crying. Now i dont kno what 2 do..i luv my 1st more than anything. but i care alot 4 my new b/f. in my head its telling me 2 go back 2 my 1st. but i kno dat would be wrong. Plz Help mE!! i love my 1st so much. i would do n-e thing 4 him.but i care for my new b/f also..
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--- Tuesday, November 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Sara
Hey girlie, I know what you are going thru, of course you still miss him, you loved him right? You prob. won't understand this now, but you not being with this guy(your first) is the best thing that could happen to you.
This guy is a jerk, and he doesn't deserve you. At first it's going to be REALLY hard, I know from experience. You will compare every little thing about these new guys to him b/c he is all that you have known. With him you were COMFORTABLE. After my first and I broke up I even missed how he would give me stinky breath kisses in the morning. LOL, ya I know gross huh?
What you need to realize is that it is okay for you to miss him. You just broke up 2 weeks ago. Allow yourself some time to be sad and cry a little bit, try to stay really busy, maybe start running or working out (that always makes me feel better) ;)
Take all the pics of him or stuff that he has given you and put it in a box for now. Get it out of your sight so your not like constantly reminded of him.
hey I just thought of something now that you're not giving him money all the time you should totaly go shopping.LOL On your way to the mall you should listen to J-LO "aint that funny". You can do it! Sorry this is so long!
--- Tuesday, November 30, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
I'm gonna have to agree with Phil, i mean sam. Your first had his chance and you've moved on. That should be a sign there unless you just got a new bf as a rebound guy. Which wouldn't be fair to the new guy at all.. Cuase it seems to me that you've moved on a bit fast, I dunno how long you two are broken up for but if he still calls you crying that seems really soon then.. Anyway do what you feel is best for YOU. NOT for anyone else. Go with your heart and you can't go wrong.. goodluck with everything..!! ~kev
--- Monday, November 29, 2004 -
Answer by: sam
Your first had his chance. It didn't work out, so he needs to move on.
Stick with this new guy and give him a chance. That's good he treats you like a queen, you shouldn't settle for any less.
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