A guy friend and I are becoming more close and have decided to start dating. The thing is that I am 20 years old, my first kiss was my first boyfriend which was only a year ago and that relationship lasted like a month. Since then I have only kissed two other boys and done nothing more than makeout. The guy I am dating has had sex, he is EXTREMELY more experienced then I am. I was wondering what guys think of girls being virgins? I know that if he really cared he wont care about me being a virgin and having NO experience I just don't really know when the right time to bring it up is and I dont want him to think I am a loser. any advice would help. I know that eventually I will want to have sex when I'm ready...but guys, do you get fed up with waiting? do you think girls who are virgins or have no experience are lame? thanks. any advice would help. much appreciated
Responses to this article:
--- Sunday, December 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Sara
You should not ever be ashamed that you are a virgin...guys would rather be with a girl who hasn't been around if ya know what I mean...I think that you like this guy so much that you are forgeting about whats important to you...from my experience sex complicates the relationship...NEVER think that having sex with someone is going to make them like you...so many girls make this mistake...please be careful...if a guy really likes you then he really likes you it has nothing to do with the physical...if you are worried that he may not like you b/c of this then you are not at the point in the relationship to be physical
guy has a point watch out bc this guy is really experienced...don't let him take advantage of you...respect yourself first then others will respect you...Im not trying to preach or anything I just don't want you to make the same mistake that I did...just remember you can never go back!!!!
--- Saturday, December 11, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
ok guy.. I think you are wrong, pre merital sex has nothing to do or has no correlation to break ups.. If both are willing then thats fine. As for the question, if a guy truely loves you he'll wait however long it takes for you to feel comfortable and not force you to do it earlier.. I mean if I had a gf that was a virgin I'd be happy with just cuddling on the bed watching TV, or a movie.. But I'm unlike most guys, and have strong views on life and relationships and religion.. Yeah I'm cool what can I say? ohh back to the question, don't worry what he thinks, what do you think about a guy who dumps a girl because she won't have sex with him? I think sex should have meaning to it and if it doesn't then you shouldn't lead anyone on.. anyway hope it helps... ~kev
--- Saturday, December 11, 2004 - Re: more experience
Answer by: Guy
Well i'm only 16 but i'd say that any guys who wants to have more than just kissing isn't really looking for a lasting relationship. If he wants a lasting relationship he can wait for the other stuff till after marrage. I know that as for me i wouldn't get fed up waiting b/c i wouldn't even want to be doing that. If the man dumps you because you wouldn't do some stuff, then it wasn't worth it. And if you really think that going far with him helps the relationship than ask why is he so experienced, because hes gone through several girls which means he isn't relationship material. I would stay away from this guy unless hes willing to wait other wise he would just be dating you for what you got, not who you are. Best of Luck and God Bless.
Signed, Guy
--- Friday, December 10, 2004 - dk
Answer by: missknowitall
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