Hi again! I ended up telling the guy that his girlfriend cheated on him and he is still with her so it is all good. So thank you very much! But I am faced with another problem. That guy I was in love with, Jack*, were have problems as you all knew. Well around Thanksgiving it finally ended. A few days later I began talking to an ex of mine who is from a different state. We will call him Ben*. Well I have known Ben for 5 years and we dated long distance for about 2. I began to discover I still had likey feelings for Ben so I told him. Well Ben is all obsessed with me and whatnot and totally in love with me. Around 2 weeks ago Ben kind of tricked me into going out with him since I refused to because I still had feelings for Jack. Well I fell for it and now Ben and I are together. At first I was ok with it and my feelings for him were strong. I even felt comfortable telling him I loved him because it was helping me get over Jack. But the thing is when I told Ben I loved him I rarely felt anything. Now I am faced with a problem. I realize I still have very strong feelings for Jack. No matter what I do I cannot get over him. Jack still likes me and he knows we are on a break. But I really do love Jack. But I am with Ben right now. I don’t want to rush anything with Jack because we really need this break from one another. But I don’t want to hurt Ben since he is a nice guy and he isn’t exactly all there. What I mean is he is kind of insane. I am afraid if I tell him I don’t love him he might hurt himself or he may become depressed and go nowhere with his life [he was all depressed and in trouble and then when I began talking to him he got all happy]. I want to help him out and be there for him and be his friend, but I don’t want to be with him. I am also afraid, as selfish as this sounds, that Jack may not like me anymore and he may just hurt me more, and I will be left with no one. I am afraid of being alone and what not. Yea I know it sounds totally horrible. I am a very insecure person. ;[
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