Since my breakup with my boyfriend of almost 11 months, I have been alright for the most part. It is Christmas break and I am at home so at least I don't have to see him everyday. The only thing is that I found out from an associate that he cheated on me and for some reason I just want to stoop to his level and hit him or curse him out on his voicemail. I am not that type of person at all but I loved him alot and I am hurt so bad. This new guy I talk to is great though. He knows my situation is very supportive as my friend in terms of listening to me and just kicking it. Everytime I think of my new guy and having anything more I think about my ex and get those hurt feelings. I haven't had those feelings since I've been home from school but I know when I get back to school and get around my new guy and see my ex I most likely will. I'm not trying to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but I want to be able to have that option without him in my head all the time.
Can anyone give me your opinion on how to make a breakup with someone you see on a regular basis just a little bit easier? I'm trying to move on and be positve not continually remember the hurt he put me through and be upset.
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--- Tuesday, December 28, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
well as many will say and I know is true, only time can heal this one.. give it time. give yourself time to pass over the feelings, it happens. I know I've gone through the same thing, but as each day goes by the pain diminishes ever soo slightly.. Eventually there will come a time to open yourself again and have relationship with a guy again.. goodluck I know it's hard.. ~kev
--- Monday, December 27, 2004 -
Answer by: sam
let go of the ex. it's been eleven months, move on.
so he cheated on you, and was a complete chump. ok... well, you're not with him now, so count your blessings that he's gone.
the only way to make a breakup easier is to allow yourself to move on. counseling is an excellent way to help yourself get through the process, along with keeping very busy and reading relationship books. help yourself through this, and quit dwelling over that guy. he isn't worth any more of your thoughts. don't even look at him when he is around campus.
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