u proberly think that im goin a tad over board but heres my problem
my bf as just left his job 4 another and the other day my message alert went on my mobile and it said it was from my bf daz..its nice, i like gettin messages from him-but it was 2 sumother gurl who he used 2 work wiv. he accidently sent it 2 my fone. he said oh i really, really miss you and i keep thinkin of all the laughs we had wen we used 2 work 2gether..blah blah! i hav got a rite 2 b mad aint i?? anyway i asked him about it and at first he denied 4 hours sayin that i set him up, sayin that i wrote the txt, wot a load of crap! then yesterday wen he was bak at work he said i really love u and i dont want u 2 hate me, shes just a friend and that hes not cheating on me. but then if he had nothin 2 hide why didnt he jus say that he text her in the first place?!
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--- Friday, December 3, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
alright mabe i'm just pointing out a fact but to me it just sounds like he has a friend that is a girl? I mean i say that to my friends that are girls all the time as for the denying it, I wouldn't have denyed it. I woulda out right told my gf that it was meant for so and so. I mean to me it seems ok for a girl to have a guy friend and say ohh i miss you blah blah blah but if a guy does it he's cheating.. To me I think you are going a little over board, i'm not saying you shouldn't feel the way you are feeling if my gf said that to a guy friend i'd feel a little upset too.. But like the first post just keep your eyes and ears open. I hope everything is ok.. ~kev
--- Thursday, December 2, 2004 -
Answer by: tanny
If it were me then I would take some time apart to see how he acts and also to get myself together. I know how much that must have hurt you. If it were no big deal then he would have just told you then or in that day. Maybe it is nothing but maybe it is everything you need to save yourself from further heartache. Good Luck :)
--- Wednesday, December 1, 2004 - Hmmmm
Answer by: Gotte
has he done anything else to make you think he's cheating or is this an isolated incident? If this is the only thing he's ever done then i would say you are going a little overboard but keep your eyes open and ears peeled. If you have other occasions where you have doubted his faithfulness then maybe you need to evaluate what you want and need from him and your relationship. Now that doesnt mean go searching for things to make him seem like he's cheating b/c it could have just been an honest mistake and he may have denied it b/c of this very reason, fear that you may go offhand with it and he may not want it to make cause for losing you. All in all try to have much more efficient communication even if it's things you dont want to hear. Write him a letter just expressing all your feelings, request that he read it several times before responding and then write his own letter. sometimes it's better this way b/c then neither of you will interrupt each other which happens often when you try to talk face to face. Good Luck and best wishes
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