I have been dating a girl since 4 months , and I have never had any feeling of love or affection towards her .
Ever since I met her and through our relationship , I never felt that " she is the one " and that I am really made for her .
But she loves me and wants to marry me !!!
Our relationship has been boring , monotonous and lacks passion.
I am fed up with this confusing situation and would like to put an end to our relationship .
How would I do this without hurting her and at the same time make it crystal clear to her that my decision is firm and final.
Or , do I have to give it more time , so that things MIGHT change , or 4 months are quite enough time to know if it's going to work or not ?
Thanks
Teddy
Responses to this article:
--- Friday, December 3, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
I'd just tell her flat out like this "You want to know exactly how I feel? I feel nothing for you, I'm sorry I just don't have the same feelings for you as you do for me. It's not fair to you or me for either of us to stay in this relationship.."
--- Thursday, December 2, 2004 - honesty
Answer by: tanny
I think honesty is the best policy. I know one of the things I hate the most is being lied to which is why I do not lie. Tell her your true feelings and that you are sorry you two didn't see things on the same page. If you give it more time then her feelings will only heighten. Do it nice and soon.
--- Wednesday, December 1, 2004 -
Answer by: beebee
well you dont need to stay with her any longer...that will just hurt her more than it is already going to. if i was you i would just tell her that you arent ready for committment..and that you need some time on your own. She's going to cry and try to make you feel bad So you wont leave her. but like you said you want to end it..you just need to let her know that. But if you are going to leave.then leave dont mess with her still and confuse her..So what im saying is dont send mixed emotions. Just tell her. There's no easy way to leave someone. So just do it. or Dont..but if your going to leave. Do it now and dont stay longer So she can just fall in love with you more.. OK THANKS
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