Hello, I am in love with this boy named Ian. He is a very interesting person, really. He insists that chipmunks are evil...lol I know..But anyways I feel so great when I'm with him but it's like we never talk EVER. He doesn't like to talk when people are around so we usually write notes back and forth at lunch. And then we walk home from school together and we kiss before we go our seperate ways, but we talk on the walk home but besides that nothing, he doesnt call. I used to cll him but them I stopped I'm not sure why? But we are so differnt and I dont know if that's whats making this so hard for us to have a relationship I don't know..Should I end it? I had been thinking about it for a while but we have been together for 4 months tomorow and I love him but I want whats best for him...
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--- Sunday, January 16, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Excellent points made guys!
You really have to find out where you stand here & what he's feeling. You are now in a situation where you're VERY confused by this whole "relationship".
Talk to him asap, tell him how you feel then listen to what he has to say. Don't put words in his mouth since this might lead him to saying the things that you want to hear. Either way, you'll know exactly where you stand & whether a relationship is worth pursuing.
Chipmunks are evil eh?? That's news to me ;-)
Best of luck
--- Saturday, January 15, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
Chipmunks evil???
OK... that's insane, but anyway...
Besides the whole Chipmunk thing, why does he not like to talk to you when people are around, in public? Is he embarassed of you or is he paranoid? That is either completely messed up of him to treat you that way, or he is just strange and being completely paranoid. Either way, I'm hinting a negative.
"Your Friend" gives some excellent advice there. Does this guy know that you two are in a "relationship"? I ask because honestly, dear -- it sounds like he is just some guy who does not take you seriously -- hence him not calling you and avoiding you in public... but kisses you when you two are alone. That's not a boyfriend, that's not even a friend. If you want to know, just be straight forward and ask what's going on. If anything, asking him will only show that you are an honest girl who is no doormat. Be prepared though, for the, "Oh... well... I'm-not-looking-for-a-girlfriend-right-now" excuse.
By the way, there are guys out there who WILL pursue you, who WILL call you, who WILL be seen with you in pubic and who DO like cute and furry Chipmunks. :-)
I think you deserve, at least, to be with a fellow like that.
--- Friday, January 14, 2005 -
Answer by: Your Friend
Well hon, it sounds like one of three things. He's either to shy, cares to much about what his friends think or is not mature enough for a relationship. Just for a second, put all your feelings for him aside. What do you want out of a relationship? Would you like a guy who would hold your hand or just mearly talk to you around his friends? Would you like a guy who would call you just to talk and to see how you're doing and maybe ask you out to the movies? I bet you said yes! Well with all feelings still aside, is this guy giving it to you? To me, it doesn't sound like it. I'm sure he's great, we all are great, but what it comes down to is a real full fledge relationship. There's nothing wrong with having a casual one, but I hope you realize that this is what this is for you. He's just to immature right now for all that you want. So either take him for who he is which is a quiet note writer and a walker homer, or find yourself a man. A few more questions for you to. Do you feel like you may never find anybody else? Are you afraid of being alone? If you answered yes, forget all that. You have the whole world in front of you and you will find another guy who gives you what you want. Do you feel like that's impossible? If you answered yes or maybe, of course you do, we all feel that way when a relationship ends. Buy you're young, full of fun, probably have a cute face and figure and some friends to help you along the way. I don't mean to put this guy down in any way if I have, I'm just saying he's not ready for what you want. And one more thing, if you haven't told him what you want, then you'll never get. Men will never, and I mean never, ever, ever (their or some exception) be able to give you want you want unless you ask. If you've received not, you've asked not. Well I hope that helped you. If you need more help just ask "Your Friend" and I'd be happy to! Good luck girl and remember, your life is wonderful and you have other options!
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