well....it started thanksgiving break. I finally confessed to the guy I like that I liked him. turned out he liked me back as well. I had to go back to school so we got ot know each other over the internet and phone. when I got back from break we went on our first date. then after that we went on anotehr and decided to be bf/gf. well thigns were going great for about a week when he told me we couldnt continue this because of the distance. when im at home he lives an hour away and he wont let me drive to his house because it is in such a bad neighborhood and he would worry to death about me. he broke up in the kindest way, and didnt want to ruin our friendship that is why he did it right away. also..when im at school the distance is 3 or so hours. anyways...so new years eve I Was at a party he was at. and we kissed at midnite, and spent the rest of the nite together eventually falling asleep together after messing around *not sex* I can tell he still likes me. I just dont know what to say do or how to handle tihs. I am so devastated over this. I am sad every day. I want to be wit hiim so bad and I dont want to like other guys. am I stupid to think that this distance thing will work? I was more than willing to come home on weekends from school to be with him. is there anything I can say or do to change his mind? any advice would help. I've lost sleep over this. I want to be with him so bad. please any advice..thank you
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--- Tuesday, January 4, 2005 - bstar
Answer by: bstar
so I told him last nite that if there was ever any chance of us getting back together let me know cuz if not I want to move on, and he said that he thinks its better if we chilled and just worked on being friends. so I guess I got my answer.... now I gotta try and move on. this sucks
--- Tuesday, January 4, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Bstar, considering the distance is only 1 hour, 3 at most - it's really NOTHING in comparison to what other couples have successfully overcome to be together. It really depends on how badly the two of you want to be with each other... and how much of that you are prepared to be honest about.
It sounds as though you two had a great relationship going & still do for that matter, so... what on Earth are the two of you doing being miserable apart???!!!
It seems you're afraid to tell him how you really feel, he has somehow gotten mixed signals & decided the best thing is to finish something which could have been really good.
I really think you BOTH need to be more honest with each other. All of this guessing what he feels, trying to weigh up the pros & cons all by yourself is crazy. Tell him EVERYTHING you've told us here, how strongly you feel about him. The lot. Don't hold anything back then ask how he feels, tell him to do the same as you have - be totally honest - how it would be if he lived on your doorstep, if it gets him to tell you what's in in heart!
It sounds as though he does feel the same but is unsure about the area in which he lives, your safety, whether you might tire of taking time out to go see him... & so on. But hey, if you really want things to work, they will - nothing will get in the way.
Talk to him ASAP, get him alone & stop bottling your feelings up. He who dares wins, so make sure he knows how you feel. Then, if he comes around & wants to give things another go - make plans, lots of them so that you both always know the deal.
That's the most important thing I think, he may feel afraid of getting too close for fear of you not feeling as strongly as he might if, at a later date, you lost interest in him.
Just my thoughts, best of luck with things. Take a chance, that's the only way we get what we want :)
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