My ex and I were together for like 11 months and have been broke up for like a month and a half. He cheated on me which was totally unlike his personality. Everyone that has heard about it doesn't believe it because that is just something he wouldn't do. Anyway, I have came back from break (I am in college) and I saw him yesterday (haven't talked since breakup). I wanted to talk to him so bad and all the love feelings came back again. I could tell from his eyes that he wanted to talk to me too. 2day I got a letter he wrote to me that said he was sorry and he lost a very important person from his life. He said he cheated b/c he was afraid of falling in love with me. He said he is not trying to get back with me but I know he still cares for me alot. I am going to write him a letter 2nite to tell him that I accept his apology and that we should act civil around each other and that I am here for him if he needs me.
I need your opinion on if I should give our relationship another chance if he wants to. He is the type of person that says he doesn't want to get back with me b/c he is scared I don't feel the same. I think if I ever let him know how I still feel and that I miss him too he will be honest as well. Should I give our love another try?
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--- Wednesday, January 19, 2005 -
Answer by: tanny
God forgives us all the time. Why is it that we as people can't forgive someone? If it isn't he first time then there you go but one mistake. If someone proves themselves through actions and you 2 feel the same way about each other then the past is the past if you both can be mature.
--- Sunday, January 16, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
If a guy cares about you, you are no longer like other people to him. You are special & his feelings should overcome any fear or anxiety which he have previously harboured - he would allow himself to fall in love with you... because love isn't like water, you can't just turn a tap to stop it.
So, little old me thinks he maybe IS the type of person who cheats & is perhaps the type of person who is very good at hiding their true personality.
I know you care about him a lot but it hurts when someone cheats on you doesn't it? Do you really fancy another dose of that?
The choice is yours but love isn't something you do your hardest to break free from - it's the most beautiful thing that God gave us & to throw it around this way really makes me feel ill.
Move on girl & don't let this guy get back into your head or anywhere else for that matter.
Best of luck
--- Saturday, January 15, 2005 -
Answer by: lilkiss4u
I guess i put that blunt. lol! yes i do beleive people deserve second chances but it also depends on the circumstance. Like 4 me, i would nooooooooo way take someone bak who cheated on me. The trust would be gone and then u will 4eva be paranoid on wot hes gettin up 2. But like the other gurl said: how did he cheat? Did he just flirt or wot? wot do u consider as cheatin? Its your call at the end of the day. I do wish u luck tho. :)
--- Saturday, January 15, 2005 - It depends...
Answer by: luvalbe_kitten
on HOW he cheated. I mean, did he kiss another girl or did they have sex or...?
--- Saturday, January 15, 2005 -
Answer by: lilkiss4u
rite on sam..yes i agree 2. wots that saying. ONCE A CHEAT-ALWAYS A CHEAT. harsh u mite think, but true!
--- Saturday, January 15, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
Whether you decide to take him back or not is your choice -- but I'll tell you straight up that this guy is feeding you lines of B.S. I think he's a cheatin', lyin' snake.
It's not like him to cheat on you? Well, honey -- he did, and now he is giving you the LAMEST excuse -- that he was "afraid of falling in love with you." Give me a break! More like he's a selfish bastard who didn't think twice about you and wouldn't keep it in his pants. My apologies for being so blunt, but you need to see through his facade.
If you fall for that line and accept him back -- don't expect trust to be there like it once was, and don't expect him to not cheat on you again. Personally I think he is a lying scumbag and I can see right though his B.S.
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