Ive been with this guy for a year now. we've been living together for about 8 months now. he is in the military, and is away some of the time. last summer he went away for a couple weeks, and he couldnt take it. he'd say that he missed me so much and couldnt wait to see me again. then theres been a couple more times that hes gone away, but he wasnt able to call. the last time he went away for about ten days, wasnt able to call, but as soon as he walked in the door, he says we need to talk. he wanted to break up because he didnt se this working out in the long run. we decided to stay together that night, and he said he was sorry. well, hes away again, but he is at a place where he is able to call me every night. its been a week, and he hasnt called once. i know hes not out in the field for the military, so theres no reason he hasnt been able to call. im just scared that this is going to be like the last time he went away. some of my friends say that maybe hes done something wrong and doesnt want to talk to me. i dont know what to do or how to feel. ive left three messages on his cell phone, which is turned off. and did i mention that yesterday was our one year anniversary. that really hurts that he hasnt called. he left here saying that he would call every chance he got. hes always talking about the future with me, and he even wants me to live with his parents when he goes to the desert. if hes not being true with the words he says, than hes got to be the best con man ive ever met.
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--- Sunday, January 23, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
I don't think it's that (him being a con man). There could be several reasons as to why he's acting this way. It's tough being in the military, and perhaps it's been especially hard on him being away from you, therefore it being hard on the relationship. Maybe he just isn't ready for a commitment and isn't ready to deal with that fact of military life (i.e., being away from your significant other for extended periods of time). Him not calling you is a sure sign that he is pulling away. My advice is to have a big talk with him when he eventually comes home or calls. No offense, but it's not the best idea to shack up with a guy (especially military) without having a commitment of a sort. I wish you the best of luck.
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