I posted a little while ago online under the title upset. it explains the situation. Ive been having more contact with my ex he has been IM me. we have kept the chats light and I have been very nice too him so that he felt comfortable talking to me. none of us mention the break up and its really strange we are talking like nothings happened. I never let him sense how upset I am I never let him know. when I get off the computer I have a cry. I dont know where the IM are leading too.
Because when he broke up with me in august he told me that he wanted nothing more to do with me. he didnt want me as a friend or as a girlfriend so I tried to move on and never contacted him than just out of the blue he sent a email asking how I was. I dont understand it after all that he said to me he acted like nothing had happened. since then we have had little chats online and I thought that something was coming off it and I was hoping that he was missing me.
I know I shouldnt be snooping but i know he spends alot of time on ebay if you know the members name you can see their feedback and what they have bought online I was just interested and I noticed that he had purchased some photographs of someone else's girlfriend. as you can imagine it broke my heart again I know we are not together but I thought that we were making progress. I never thought my ex was that type of guy hes 33 and I thought that he was more mature than that it got me thinking that he might have been cheating on me when we were together. im 24 and hes 33 and I was his first girlfriend I love him so much
Im now scared that if we did get back together that I woulndt be able to trust him. I hate feeling this way because i always thought he was a decent bloke. I just dont understand why he contacted me if he doesnt want anything more. I had my graduation yesterday and he asked about that and he said he would like a photo
please help me Im so upset by all this
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--- Wednesday, January 26, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
I am very compassionate about your situation, Nat, even though I know my advice thoughout your whole ordeal has been blunt. It is because I have been in your shoes once, a long time ago. I know personally what you are going through.
What you are doing to yourself, though, is very unhealthy. You are obsessed with this man and you haven't allowed yourself to move on. You need to do that for yourself.
Seek counseling. It is extremely healing and will benefit your life. You need to do this for yourself, you are torturing yourself over this asshole. You need help moving on.
I have no other advice to give you, expect some reassuring words that a BETTER, MORE FULFILLING AND HAPPIER relationship is out there for you. You are the one that has to take that first step and LET GO of the past.
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