i like one guy in ny but i dont live in ny and i went to see him but then he told me to move on. i dont think both of us have any future together but sometime i think we can have a future if he wants to. but i think its all about the money and the support that he doesnt have. well my point is not about marrige. point is about why is he telling me to move on and then when i tell him i moved on with someone else he told me that he still have feelings for me he wished me good luck and everything. but the reason i had to tell him yes i moved on and i like some one else was becoz i couldnt take it that he still called me even though when he told me to move on and find someone else. so now i did kind of move on with my life. u know, u get this feeling when someone calls u and then that person tells u to move on. he told me that everything he said was bullshit.. and he still have feelings for me? someone tell me what to do i mean what could have i done before i just wanted to stop talking to him becoz i still have feelings for him. so i cut him off from phone totally. but now that we dont talk im sending him a card to ny i still have feelings and.. i just want to tell him hey im still here. i just want to spend the moment and time with him but not our future...like i said if he wants to but i know he wont. but i dont think he understands that. he thinks i want to get married and sometime he tells me to find a guy and get married. the only person i would marry is him but i dont know.. some time i have this big feeling that he has someone on the side too.. i guess my intentions are always right... now, i dont know if he will ever call me back if he gets my card.... will he call me back?
.... just dont know why he acts like that........ even though he knows how much i like him..
I agree with sam when a man blatently tells you something like that, they mean it. If he continues to persist in playing mind games, it sounds like he's doing it for KICKS and POWER to CONTROL. This isn't love so don't get confused over that.
Again I agree, most men don't talk about marraige unless they are ready for it. Remember, you should be treated with respect, dignity and love.
~ibIncognito
--- Monday, January 31, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
He wants you to move on. He's TOLD you to move on. When you've told him that you have moved on and found someone else (which is a LIE), it bugs him because of his EGO. The thing that a lot of women don't understand is that men are simple. They don't over-analyze like females do, they don't say one thing and mean another -- when a guy tell you to move on, he means it.
What's with all this talk of marriage? Guys don't want to talk about marrying a woman unless he is serious about her, so enough of the marriage talk. That scares a lot of guys.
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