I met a guy in early september. At first, I felt a strong physical attraction between us, in addition to a mental conection that could not be ignored. I confronted him on the things I was feeling, and he agreed, saying that he felt them to, and wanted to date me to see where those feelings might lead us. Within a months time, things had gotten weird FAST, esp. since we never officially defined our relationship, saying that we were only dating and were NOT bf and gf, AT ALL. We were very physical with each other throughout our month of awkwardness, and both of us poured our souls out to the other, about our past, feelings on the present, and hopes for the future. Finally, He decided that we were better as friends because honestly, neither of us could tolerate the awkward, uneasy tension any longer. Now, he has certainly labeled us. I am his only best friend and he is my only best friend. We can talk about anything together, and our senses of humor line up PERFECTLY. I love him (AS A FRIEND) to death, but I don't think I could see havng a relationship beyond friends due to some of his "habits" and needs in a relationship. I am more than fine with that. The problem is he is dating someone else now. It drives me crazy. I can't stand the girl for one, and now all the time he would use to spend with me, he is now using to spend with her!!! I hate her so much. I am not jealous...or at least I don't think I am because I don't want him to be my bf any more, but I just don't like him dating HER. I don't know if I use my "best friend powers" to tell him how I feel and perhaps end it, or just hide my feelings until my insides have deteriorated into a pile of goo. What do I do? Am I dellusional?
Hmmmm... A tough one, you obviously still harbour feelings for him, jealousy, pain and doubts will naturally come. He seems to have moved on since he now considers you "just a Friend". You two are already open with each other. Hmmm, I'd have to know more about the guy to analyze him so I'll stick to you.
It will take some time for you to get used to this Idea, in essence it was a dose of rejection. There was a relationship but now its gone or rather not as intense(Despite the complexities). You'll have to handle this in the same fashion as those obviously dumped, in which case it takes time and other relationships to get over these feelings.
A reiteration on your feelings, it is natural for you to feel that way, you two were close and in essence he was yours for a while. You are "Just friends" now go ahead and tell him your feelings, but keep a clear head about it if you can. He should understand, if not then maybe that status has changed as well.
~LB ibIncognito
--- Monday, January 31, 2005 - Just let him go
Answer by: JC from WHK
Here is a deal
He never had feelings for you from the beginning. Because if he really really liked you from the beginning he wouldn't date someone else. Forget about him and start concentrating on others. They say there are plenty of fish in the water. As for the girl just leave her alone because she haven't done anything wrong. Its not her fault that the guy fell for her. Move on.
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