Title:
He left me for exgirlfriend-should I contact him?
By: ray
I met a man on a website for singles. We hit it off--talked/emailed everyday for the first 2 weeks, then met the next weekend on Saturday night for dinner and again Sunday for lunch and spent the day together. He had mentioned a woman in his past before, but I had no idea he was still interested in her (he said we talked more than they ever did, they didn't have sex very often at all, they only talked 2 times while he was out of town for 2 weeks, she never bought a Valentine's gift for him, and other inconsiderate things on her part)
Well, the next week after we met for dinner, he told me he was going to an auction with a male friend, but if he decided not to go, would I like to go out that weekend. I said yes. We were still talking everyday before that weekend of the supposed auction. Well, friday, saturday or sunday he never called, but wrote an email sunday night and said this person was back in his life and he'd like to give it another chance. I wrote an email back and said thanks for telling me, but that the same problems would still exist and it probably wouldn't work, and that I missed him already. Those emails were exchanged last Monday morning, January 10th. My question is, should I write him one more email (and only one) and let him know that I still care and would like to go out again if that relationship doesn't work out for some chance, or should I just let it go and try to find someone else. I really like this guy a lot and from what he has told me about this woman, she will not treat him right and they will probably split again (however, I don't know that).
Thanks for the help--this is really bugging me a lot.
Responses to this article:
--- Sunday, January 16, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Nope. No more contact initiated by you.
You ought to count your blessings that you didn't get waaaay too involved with this guy before he decided to drop you at a later date for this ex.
I agree with Sam - if he does ever contact you again (which may be very unlikely since the woman he is really interested in is back in his life) keep it brief. Don't give him the satisfaction of saying "no" to anything.
Until a person is well & truly over a past love any other relationship in the meantime only leads to the people "in between" getting very hurt. Don't be one of these people.
Good luck
--- Saturday, January 15, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
NO. Do NOT e-mail him or call him.
He is not over this other woman (obviously). He won't be for awhile, even, so save yourself a HUGE amount of wasted time and heartache... and move on from this one.
If he calls you, make sure you keep it short -- tell him to give you a call when he feels he is truly ready to move on, and is ready put the past far behind him.
Don't expect anything to happen with this guy. I'm willing to bet he was meeting this other woman when he supposedly was going to go to that "auction". Go on about your life and continue to meet other people.
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