Hi! I was dating a girl I met recently for about three weeks, and she was so cool and lovely that I started feeling something special for her. She has 19 years old -I got 27- (Ooops!), but she seemed so mature and down-to-earth for her age, and we'd such a good time toghether, that I decided to make a try. We went out a couple of times and enjoyed every moment. One night I gazed into her eyes and kissed her. She answered affectionately. After that, we went out more, we talked about having a formal relationship in the near future, and we looked more like lovers than anything else. It was so sudden and beautiful to be true, so I knew there was something wrong, but I decided to live the dream. Two days after our last meeting, she started avoiding any personal contact with me; then she didn't call me like she did before, and never answered my calls. Now, I am still doing my best job to forget her, but I'm still curious about what made her suddenly "retire" after the few beautiful moments we had toghether, but specially after ALL THE THINGS SHE DID AND TOLD ME. At the beginning, it seemed we were building a relationship, but now I think she was so confused and lonely at the time she met me, that she just needed me for a while, with nothing serious in mind, althought it's the first time it happens to me. My questions: What makes women to dissapear and turn their back just when things are getting interesting??? It's because they are too unsecure? Does it happens only to younger women? Was it a mistake to get involved in a relationship with a girl almost eight years younger?
Thanks!
Responses to this article:
--- Tuesday, January 25, 2005 - AGE AINT NOTHING BUT A NUMBER!
Answer by: beebee
I DONT AGREE ON DAT....AGE IS NOT NOTHING BUT A NUMBER DONT WORRY HOW OLD SHE IS THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT.
--- Monday, January 24, 2005 - Temporary out of my mind...
Answer by: deinecross
Kisses and Sam; First of all, I wanna thank you for your time and advice. After reading your responses and thinking for a while, I concluded that:
1)It doesn't matter how mature a person could appear: age matters. Development stages can't be ignored; individual perception also matters as well. The fact is that, BEFORE I met her, I NEVER looked at younger chicks: but she was just so cute and nice, I just said to me "why not? My grandpa is 10 years older than my grandma! It CAN work!" (That's why I decided to be with "such a young chick", Sam! =-). Well; I was wrong. Now, you can bet I will ask for the age first, and then the name!
2)"Special" doesn't means "the perfect candidate to be my girl".
3)Yes, I will keep in touch with her and try to be "just a friend". It's not right to "shut her down" like that. Life is a school; you learn from your mistakes, and that's what makes it exciting! (What's next? Will I look ahead to a woman 10 years OLDER than me? Mmmm... You can't never say "never"... Love is a trial-and-error road ;-)
Thanks for your advice, and take care!
Hector
--- Monday, January 24, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
dont worry....i dont think the age difference is that bad. to answer you questions:
1) maybe your idea of a "formal" relationship and her idea of one, is quite different. at your age, you're ready to really settle down and start off a family probably, right? and her's, well...she's probably still getting over that fact that high school is over and she's gotta either go to college or start a career. most people at the age of 19 arent ready and/or prepared to start something as big of a family.
2)she's not insecure, she's just still got a lot of learning to do about how life works after high school. maybe you two could keep in touch and catch up again when she feels she ready...unless you dont feel like waiting, which is very understandable-i dont blame you.
3)dont try so hard to forget her, cuz believe me, you dont want to. you probably want to forget the fact that you cared so much for her, but she maybe didnt feel that strongly for you, but dont completely shut her out....keep in touch!
and 4)if you really wanna know why she got out of that relationship so quickly and suddenly ("just as things were getting interesting...") just-try talking to her. even if she doesnt wanna talk about her reasons for leaving you like she did...talk to her about at least continuing to be friends and maybe something will build up from there again...and who knows-you might become a couple again sooner than you think. give her time-she might come around, and if not...settle for *~*just friends*~*
hope things work out the way you'd like them to~if you want or need more help-email me anytime at:
xoxkissesxox@charter.net
--- Sunday, January 23, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
Question: Why would you even want to be with such a young chick? Wait... don't answer that.
So, now she's avoiding and ignoring you. Well dude, what do you expect? She's nineteen, and last time I checked, that's still a teenager. She immature. She probably isn't ready to settle down or get remotely serious with anybody.
Take the hints she's giving you and move on... to a woman.
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