ok I really love this guy jordan but he has a gf an di dont know what to do bc i mean i can hear his name or even see a picture of him and totally start crying and i dont know how to tell him that i still Love him bc we went out previously and he broke up with me for my best friend and now i really need to let him know how much i really do love him but im so cponfused what if he doesnt love me that way back i mean he said he liked me and would want to date me but he has a gf so i mean what do i do i cant stand this much longer i really need help please
I fear I do not have reasonable advice for this situation, though I agree truth and conversation is required. Its tough as nails to say you love someone when there is so much doubt surrounding it, fears of rejection and so forth running through ones mind. I will not lie, it seems like a bleak situation and rejection is a hard bloody pill to swallow. It may take you a full year before you feel better. But don't "sell yourself short" as the saying goes. Women are the most valuable creatures on this planet, men are the dumbest for not recognizing it. But eventually a man will wise up and see how special you are.
~LB ibIncognito "Breaking the male stereotype"
--- Monday, February 7, 2005 - ok
Answer by: lovegurly
yea we are reqally close and he has like never lied to him i tried to get him out of my head but it didnt work
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Answer by: Emma
Well... it seems to me that he's being dishonest already. But that's just my opinion... okay, so he left you to date your best friend & now he tells you he'd like to date you whilst he is STILL in a relationship with someone else... By the way, that's a BIG stumbling block.
There are a lot of things wrong about this situation & for either of you to consider an "affair", or anything else for that matter would only add to the problems.
Do you suppose he already knows how you feel about him? From the way you describe what happens when you hear his name... I would have thought that it might be obvious to him. If it isn't - let it be known by all means, just be aware that this girl he's with now could one day, be you when he decides at a later date that he wants to get back with another ex.
All things to consider & just my two cents, as always :) Best of luck with your decision
--- Monday, February 7, 2005 -
Answer by: MissSway
Hi.
Ok. First of all let me just say I know exactly how you feel. I've totally been there. And the thing is, it's never easy. I know it hurts, but if he really wanted to be with you it shouldn't matter wether or not he's with somebody.
But you need to be honest with him, take it from someone who's made mistakes. I know how scary it is, but taking the chance of getting hurt is better than waking up one morning and finding out it's too late. It's harder to regret the things you didn't do. So, if you're sure you love him, don't let it be a secret. Find the courage to tell him, because when you really think about it, what do you have to loose?
I hope this helps somehow and good luck to you, whatever you decide to do.
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