I have a question maybe someone could help me with.Lets start off with a little bit of my past,i am an alcoholic and have been for 14 years,i have tried to quit many times in the past.Iwould go to work come home drink until i passed out.My days off were spent drinking.So here i am sober for the past 7 months of my life. My question is this there is someone i met that made me stop drinking,she didnt make me.But i stopped because of how she makes me feel.Like she is what i have been searching for my entire life.Well i care about this woman so much but everytime i go to talk to her i chicken out and cant say what i want to say. Even though we both know how i feel i just cannot bring myself to say the words.Lately i have gone in to see her alot and i always offer to help her with whatever she is doing.The other day she said she didnt need any help but thanks for coming in more.I miss her all the time and just feel something deep within that i never thought was possible.And better than i thought this feeling could be. She is ten years my junior and is a single mother of two boys that i care about also,because they are a part of her..........if anyone could lend some advise it will be greatly appreciated....thank you.
Its amazing how certain women fill us with such a repentent desire that we'll do anything for them. I felt afraid I would lose my own darling until one day I just let it out and told her how I felt how much she's inspired me and so forth. You'll still need her support with your Alcoholism, vices haunt people for years despite them having recovered.
A mind set I would suggest, it has greatly helped me with my fears and problems. Plan for the best, I assume you wish marraige, prepare yourself for it. Women are much more valuable than men, especially men such as ourselves. She is no doubt priceless to yourself and you must earn the right to be with her! But you need to make the commitment of still supporting her despite her feelings towards you in the event she may not share your feelings. (Love sometimes takes time) If you remain true to her despite her feelings, she will still support you and I'd have no doubt her feelings will flourish.
Though there will be the possibility and pain of rejection, if your love is true you'll still support her.
~LB ibIncognito "I was a man without hope, desire and a will for life, until you showed me I could love and be loved"
--- Wednesday, February 9, 2005 -
Answer by: sara
JUST DO IT!!!!! Just don't think about it and just go for it!!!! Get some confidence and tell her how you feel
Ok this is what you are going to do...Go get one single red rose (a dozen is over doing it) then you are going to go see her right away and tell her how special she is to you. She is waiting.....
You can do it!!!
--- Monday, February 7, 2005 - talk to her
Answer by: dima
Hey
I completely understand where you're coming from. You need to talk to this woman, because I believe it is much worse to just hold your feelings for her inside. If you say she already knows how you feel, then maybe it isn't necessary to tell her every tiny detail about how you feel about her. The most important thing is to tell her something. Wait for when the moment is right. It's better to let out how you're feeling for her instead of keeping it to yourself.
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