I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now. The problem is, whenever we have an argument sometimes it ends up where i say i might go home or he says "go home then" and when i make my way down to do so., i realise if i did, he wouldnt miss me, and he wouldnt call me, because he said he wont chase anyone and it would be my choice to leave and he's stubborn as hell. i dont know what to make of this, it hurts alot when he does it and he can say some really hurtful things in an argument and then forget bout them 10 minutes later after I have gave him a hug and jokingly said hes a whinger... its always me who apologises and sorts things out. i really dont know how to take it. And i have come to the point of not asking him about it because it causes more arguments. Everything i say, he things im being bitchy and i mean everything. i sit n cry sometimes just at the sheer frustration of it. I dont want to leave, i know he loves me and we have the best times. i just feel like i need reassurance with a personality like this... its like im not important
Communication is key and relationships require both parties to make it work. Sara is right in which you should express your feelings and try to come up with a mutual understanding. Also she is correct, you can't change another person person (adding my own comment Unless they WANT to change), though you can change yourself, you may also consider he might not be worth your while if he does not recognize the good qualities you have and are developing.
~LB ibIncognito "I can never tell if the advice I give is Good advice, I suppose the day I get tarred and feathered is the day I'll find out."
--- Wednesday, February 9, 2005 -
Answer by: sara
I went through that phase with my boyfriend...He sound like he is just immature...Tell him how you feel...make an agreement to not say anything about going home if you do get into an argument...
People always say hurtful things when they fight that they don't mean...and the person who said them can easily forget about them while the other one will remember forever...
My bf acted like this until one day I decided I couldn't take it anymore and I just broke up with him...It took him loosing me to really apreciate me...We got back together a month later and everything has been good ever since...
Im not suggesting that you break up with him bc the bottom line is that you can't make someone appreciate you or care about you...your best bet would be to let him know how you feel and if he doesn't change then the only thing that you CAN do is to change yourself and either keep putting up with not being happy or move on and find someone who will...
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