I've been hanging with this guy lately. he is a friend and we fool around. at first this was gonna be just a hook up. I was fine with it but now I really likehim. he knows I really like him and he said he likes me too. I thought at first we were starting to date but then he made out with a girl saturday. he tol dme bout it tho and I was upset. he says he doesnt want a girlfriend because he doesnt want to be tied down and wants to keep his options open. I dont know what to think of this at all. I want to keep being with him but do you think that there will be a future with this? I raelly believe there mite be and I know he jsut wants to get what he can get right now. any advice would help. I know that he is prob using me. but we dont always hook up we cuddle sometimes too and stuff. Please any advice I dont want to waste my time. thank you!
Don't hang around someone who doesn't treat you or other women as they should be treated (Respect, dignity, love, the whole nine yards). Though there may be a physical attraction, I doubt there is anything beyond that according to your description. Changing a person who doesn't want to be changed is as hard as moving the sun with your hands, so unless he WANTS a relationship there is little you can do to kindle anything.
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Answer by: sara
This is the thing that sux about being a girl...A guy can have a pure physical relationship with no attachments what so ever....However girls will over time even if they are unwanted eventually grow feelings for someone they are physically involved with...
You said at first it was just suppose to be a hook up...and I think he still views it that way...I think the longer you stay with him the more you'll want to be with him and you'd only be setting yourself up for a heartache...
--- Tuesday, February 8, 2005 - weellllllllllllldump the loser
Answer by: missknowitall
gurl if you want to be tied down then find a guy who will like you, and wants to be with you, if this guy, who you like right now, comes back and says he loves you ans wanna be tied down then thats good. But be true to yiourself.
--- Tuesday, February 8, 2005 - dump him
Answer by: Glass88
I hate to give you such hard advice, but honestly, you deserve to be with someone you're sure about. This guy is an idiot and he's not giving you what you want. Move on.
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