I already wrote the post "how to get the shy guy". I'm going completely crazy. And, I appreciate the two comments I recieved. I do believe he's shy. But- I'm shy too. Every once and a while I do the EXACT same things he does. I absolutely could not look at him today. I feel so horrible because we've spoken in person already but... I get really scared around him and when I saw him recently I just couldn't say anything. I couldn't open my mouth to speak. I know he likes me, and I think I'm scared about moving forward because I don't want to get hurt. I want to get to know him so badly, I feel like this is tearing me apart. I feel like I need to really show him that I'm completely interested in him, but I'm afraid to show my emotions.
I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING THOUGH. This whole thing is driving me crazy. I hate putting out the wrong signals to him. I also get REALLY nervous when all of his friends are around, that's when I especially can't look or say a word to him.
How can I give him a good clear sign that I like him? I mean, I'd also like to say something to him about my not so consistent behavior whenever he's around... but part of me feels like I shouldn't have to initiate everything. I'm so confused, please help me!!!!
Shy yourself eh, hmmmmmmm, its always easier to tell someone to just go for it than to really do it. Let me ponder a bit. Perhaps you could Instant Message him (suggestion similar to the text messaging I like the concept) Writing tends to be easier than actually talking. I know several shy people who can go non-stop when typing rather than speaking (including myself). Once I get comfortable and familiar with someone I can open up more and even talk to them better in person (which I actually prefer since I can analyze their body language admire her smile, her eyes, etc. Yes I'm an eye and smile man call me cliche) As for over the phone... Hmmm I'm betting he wouldn't be entirely comfortable with that Idea at first. He'll probably be rehearsing what to say trying not to make a fool of himself. Once he's comfortable with you and you with him you'll probably love chatting over the phone. Hope that helps.
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Answer by: x ~ Keeli ~ x
Hey there
Maybe you could try getting his mobile number? I know its alot easier to speak via txt, as u dont actualy have to see the person. u could then begin to speak on the fone, and hopefully have the confidence to then speak in person.
Im not really sure, but i do know that jumping in won't help. Hes obviously not the most confident of people. Like someone said in a response to your other article, it is likely hes been hurt in the past, and just needs to be sure before he makes a move.
So yeh, id say, ask him for his number... thats a sign you like him, and if he does like you, hes sure to give it to you. If not, just hold back... Maybe hes too shy to even do that!
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