I work with this great girl, we hang out all the time. We talk late everynight and share some or our most intimate secrets to each other.
We were just out this past weekend and we always no matter what we are doing have the best time together.
Since we started of as friends should I step forward and ask her out? Do I risk losing such a great friendship?
Please help, I am unsure and don't want anyone's feelings hurt.
Thanks a million, Clif
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--- Wednesday, March 2, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Clif,
There's always a risk & there's always the chance that something really great will become of it :-)
The choice at the end of the day is entirely yours but from the sounds of it you realise already that there is potential for a relationship to develop &, for some reason, you are looking for reassurance...
Well... you probably know already that there are no guarantees in life but it would be an awful shame if you were to miss out on something good when you both wanted it to happen but were to afraid to take the next step.
Bite the bullet & muster up the confidence to take the chance. What is the worst that can happen realistically? If you're friendship is strong & you already share some intimate things I'm sure you can both move on, should things not work out!
Go for it, follow your heart :-) Best of luck
--- Monday, February 28, 2005 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
hmm well this is a tough subject because there are two sides of the fence. lets say you two end up going out, now if you two break up, you will either remain good friends (i've heard of this on only rare occasions) or the more obvious and rational conclusion, you two will never speak to each other again. I think that when two people become intimate or in love, they share a special bond. When you two are no longer intimate, one or both sides feels betrayed, hurt, lost of trust. What is the main basis of a good friendship? Trust, when someone doesn't feel they can trust the other then it's hard to keep that same friendship.
Basically it boils down to your own personal choice. Which rather you have? a good friendship that lasts a long time, yet knowing you do have feelings for her may make things difficult, or trying to evolve these primative feelings into something more sophisticated? Personally if I were in your shoes I'd ask her out. Let things develope, rather take risks in life then none at all but thats me. Hopefully this will help some with you, shed some light, so you can see it from two sides of the fence.. goodluck ~kev
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