When u catch them lookin at it why do they deny it?
Why wen you have proof do they still deny it even more??
Do they really wish they had a gf like those sluts???
Do they REALLY fantasize about 'doin it' wiv them even tho they 'do it' wiv their gf's????
Why is it just a guy thing? Wot is that?
Is porn ok?
Should gurlz just leave their bf's 2 it and not make a big deal?
lol! jus wana know..
thnx
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, February 17, 2005 -
Answer by: ibincognito
It is actually becoming quite a problem and its scale is increasing. When you study the social effects, the relationship effects and the personal effects, you begin to see the detriment about it.
It is an addiction. There are studies to support this concept. Most people would debate the validity of watching porn, however, like most addictions there is little to be gained by such vices. Like any other addiction it is hard to let go.
In my opinion, it isn't a good practice on any level, (just like casual drinking there is always the potential for it to becoming a bigger problem, especially during times of stress). This world is run by choice, decisions made yield consequences and benefits. That is one law of the universe that cannot be changed. You can try and deny the consequences, but they come out eventually.
--- Monday, February 14, 2005 - hmmmm
Answer by: missknowitall
basically gurl all guys but a very small few look at porn, even girls do. So u shouldn't make a big deal out of it. They look at pron to jack off, or they wait till they have a wet dream and wake uo with morning stiffness. They deny it for some odd reson, butmostly they tell the truth atleast my friends do, n it depends on who u are, i thik your a goody gurl, so men would deny it to u. ok, u have to put out a personal opinion, im 14 turnig 15 and even i look at porn, nothing bad, just someting i do, doesnt mean im a bad kid, but i know my 14 year old bf sometimes looks at it adn waits for morning stiffness, my friends all do it. it honestly isn't nothing bad unless ur christian. so dont worry about porn, if you have ne more ?????, email or im me @ anglesweetness2001@yahoo.com
--- Sunday, February 13, 2005 - it's not really a big deal, I believe
Answer by: shadow fire
Dear lilkiss4u, In my opinion, it is quite normal for boys to look at, read, and fantasize about pornography. It is perfectly normal for the human being to have a healthy sexual appetite. At least, that is what I call it. Guys deny it becayse they think it is shameful to have it, and that their girlfriend would dissapprove of it. It is simply human nature to deny some things. And it is not only boys/males who look at pornography. Girls/females do it as well. You might not have seen any girl look at some, or heard of it, but I assure you that some girls do look at pornography. I also believe they fantasize about it, possibly for lack of sexual experiences, boredom, or just an urge to do so. And as for the slut part, some men do wish it, some do not. This is just another of natures things, that can be or can not be 'meddled' in. It is your choice of what you do about it. That is all I can say. I hope this helps you with your question
--- Sunday, February 13, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Well, as a Christian I say pornography & (other kinds of physical AND thoughtful) promiscuity are very wrong.
I know you could toddle down the whole "it's only fantasises", yada, yada but at the end of the day it's not only destructive to the person seeking & getting pleasure from it but it's also destructive to the relationship that person may (or may not) be involved in.
Rid your mind of sin & do what is right by the Lord. In today's society where morality is out the window, find a guy who's heart's in the right place... i.e. with YOU & not with some cheap piece of immorality.
But hey! I'm not here to force my views & faith upon anyone but by leading fruitful, fulfilled lives guided by the Holy Spirit, without any desire for such "quick fixes" of sexual gratification one can only hope that, as a Christian, you are living a lifestyle to which the unsaved, of their own accord, should aspire to once they witness the effects of, what was once, seemingly harmless behaviour.
God Bless
--- Sunday, February 13, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
Porn is all about animalistic urges and sexual gratification. Whether porn is ok or not is a matter of personal opinion. What are YOU ok with? If you are against it for moral reasons, that is definitely ok and you have every right to feel that way. If you, however, have an issue with your boyfriend watching it because of the porn stars and your own insecurity -- I don't think that is a reason for you to be against it, per se.
I do think it's normal for someone to be curious and look at some of the stuff... and usually when guys look at the stuff they are just interested in the sexual activity and fantasies that goes on, not the women. DON'T compare yourself to them, because that's not what it is about.
I do think that viewing porn often be an unhealthy addiction, and some of the men who are really into it obsess about it and do begin to see women as sex-objects. It can be pollution for the mind, and in a lot of ways, it is a violation of something so personal as making love.
There are some porn out there that aren't as raunchy and are indicated for theraputic purposes to help couples in their sex lives... and I see nothing wrong with that. It all is a matter of personal opinion, though. Some people are ok with a little bit once in a great while, others don't agree with it at all, and some people have no problem with it. What matters here is what YOU are ok with morally, and to have an honest and mature talk with your boyfriend about his opinion on it. Perhaps he really is a pervert, or you are blowing things out of proportion. Talk to him and find a way to solve this, or maybe make some sort of compromise -- if that.
--- Saturday, February 12, 2005 - not to worry
Answer by: dima
I think the porn thing really isn't such a big deal. Guys just like to have their little fantasies. When you think about it, most guys know they can't even get near a girl like the ones that are in most pornos. They wouldn't feel very comfortable with someone like that. The big problem with porn is the way it demeans women and is very forceful or aggressive (in a rape-like way), and you wouldn't want your bf to start trying to recreate something like that.
Personally, I wouldn't be concerned about the porn thing, unless it was getting TOTALLY out of control. Its probably mostly out of curiousity. Most guys that I know don't even deny watching it. And about it being just a guy thing... I know a lot of girls that have admitted to watching porn, but girls are definitely more apt to denying it.
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