My boyfriend has been acting kind of distant lately. He still calls me, but at school today, he didn't say a word to me until 3rd period. It makes me wonder. He dosen't really call as much, but he still does. He says everything is ok with us, but i'm not sure. He keeps asking me what I would do if we broke up, and a lot of talk about that. I'm worried. What should I do?
Hmmm distant. I agree somewhat with Sam, though I'll spin off on some other possibilities. He could be debating whether or not you still want a relationship with him. He could be burned out, he might still think he needs to keep the relationship going full speed making him doubt if he can keep it at that pace. Try invite him to a few simple things nothing dramatic, try just hanging out with him, but ya give him some room. Don't make him feel isolated though.
Wish I could help more, if more details are provided I may be able to provide more insight.
~LB ibIncognito "Professional? Knowledgable maybe, I lack the mental capacity to get certified." "Isn't that a bad thing?" "Well bad when you're trying to convince someone you know what you're talking about, even worse when you try and convince yourself the very same thing."
--- Wednesday, February 16, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it doesn't sound good if your boyfriend is asking hypothetical question about you two breaking up...
My advice is for you to give him space and let him have some alone time. If he values your relationship he will come around.
Good luck
--- Tuesday, February 15, 2005 -
Answer by: dima
Who knows what he's doing. Maybe he's testing you? I don't really know. Give him a straightforward answer about how you would feel about breaking up... and then throw something back at him. Why should he go around hanging the question of breaking up around you? Ask him what this is all about, because whats the point in dragging everything out? I know that may seem a bit harsh, mostly because you might not want to know what he has to say, but it is not fair for you to be feeling worried all the time while he's playing this whole "what if" game. And besides who knows what he'll actually say? Better to just find out than let everything slowly get worse, while you worry about everything and he's playing games.
Good luck!
--- Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - hmmmmmmmmmmm
Answer by: eskemo
you should tell him. but first u gotta have the guts u noe? Tell him if he's got anything to say then say it now...because he's convincing u that he wants to break up. guys have a way with words and u shouldn't take it at times..........and if al else fails maybe he thinks u dont like him??? SO raise ur game a bit with him,normally when stuff like this happens i think like someone i look up to and think what they would do...like in movie shows haha.........anywho hope it helps? Chyeah bye
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