I have started dating my boyfriend 4 months ago. At the time that we met i was already in a realtionship with a man i have been datin for 5 months. WE had our problems but we got over them. Anyways my ex left to go home one weekend and i ended up meeting my current boyfrined at a party we hit it off, i ended up cheating on my boyfriend and breaking it off and started dating him. Just recently me and my ex started talking and ran into each other on campus. We started chilling went out to lunch together and hung out with him and his roommates who are also my friends it was nice to finally hanging out and being frineds again. Anyways he recently told me that he still loves me and never stopped loving me he just figured it was over between us and tried to get over us cuz he had to. Anyways we hung more and more and i realized that i might of never stopped loving him. I know that we have been through alot(him kissing his ex0girlfriend while we were dating and me cheating onhim) the other day at our friends birthday we kissed and allthe feelings came back and he told me tat after everything we have been through he still loves me and wants to try again and i have no idea what to do i am love with my boyfriend and i dont want to hurt him but i wonder if i should try again with my ex-boyfriend I am so confused i dont know i feel like i love two great guys and i have no idea what to do. My ex-boyfriend is trying so hard and i tell him that i love my boyfriend and i dont know what i want. On valentines day my ex-boyfriend sent me a card osmething my boyfriend didnt do i know that should effect my decison at all. But i still have no idea if i should go back to my ex and make more good memories or stay with my boyfriend and see what happens between us i am so confused
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--- Friday, February 18, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
Let me guess... you are around 18 or 19 years old?
Firstly, I am not trying to judge you, but why does it seem like you HAVE to be with a guy?
No offense, but it shows immaturity, irresponsibility, and lack of dignity and integrity when you are in one relationship, and go to a party -- betray your boyfriend's trust, and cheat on him. If you think you are "in love" you have a lot to learn about what love really is.
I know you're young and making mistakes is how you learn in life -- but don't you think it's time to grow up and start treating people (and especially yourself) with respect? Trust me, I was like you once, and I had the time of my life partying it up -- but I had to learn some lessons the hard way about relationships... a serious reality check hit me hard.
Give yourself a time to NOT have a boyfriend, to grow as a person, to get to know people before jumping into "relationships" with them, and to hold yourself in a higher standard. Hold it out, and let things flow naturally. Being deceitful and playing with people only leads to your own heartache.
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