i've been living with my boyfriend martin since i was 19 it's going on nine years now.we have one seven year old son together.he has cheated on me about 3 times in the past and i have forgiven him...i meet someone about 2years ago his name is robert. and we've always been good friends we'v had mutaul attraction...he also has a live in girl friend ...about 4 months ago we decided to take our friendship to another level..we talk everyday and go out when we can.we've been intimate allready.the reason im confused is because i feel like im falling in love with robert but i still feel love for my boyfriend martin.i don't know if it's normal to feel this way towards two people... i don't feel ready to leave my boyfriend yet..and i don't want to let robert go ethier my question is do u think im crazy for feeling this way....
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--- Monday, February 21, 2005 - Its not going to be easy!!
Answer by: Sara
Realize that you are only digging yourself into a hole before it gets any deeper. Maybe you can't choose b/c neither one of them really make you happy. Think about what made you go and seek out another man in the first place. Is this guy robert really all the things that you want or is he simply just the things that you feel that martin lacks?
A while back I read in a book that love is a choice and at first I had no idea as to what it meant. I mean you have built up a relationship with robert talking to him everyday so OF COURSE you are going to start to have feelings for him. You have gone on dates with him and probably complained about things that martin does that upsets you and for him the same. So you felt an understanding with one another but he is probably a lot worse than martin in reality. You set yourself up right in the line of temptation.
My advice is to end it with robert b/c things are only going to get worse if you dont. Picture your life w/o martin. Is that what you want?
--- Friday, February 18, 2005 - Gurl you aint crazy unless you think you are
Answer by: keithsbabygurl
Hunny you aint crazy honestly i wouldnt do what you are doing but you have to ask yourself do you feel what you doing is right? And what if Martin finds out or robert finds out about Martin you need to think about what you are doing considering you have a kid wit Martin i would stay wit martin unless he is abusing you if he is good to you then you need to stay wit martin b/c its not only for you think of your kid and do what you think will be best for you and your kid. Well i hope i was of help :)
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