I have broken up with my ex-b/f as of July, 2004. He is not the right person for me to be with. I have broken up with him many times before. Now, I realize I have issues that I need to work on, and being in a relationship is not where I belong. This man has many "triggers" that take me back to my growing up years. I am co-dependent and I need to start taking care of myself. My ex has a "pug dog". This dog is 5 years old. I knew this dog when he was a puppy. This dog is not your usual pet. He is very smart. Since my leaving, this dog was very depressed. I was like his mother. My ex and the dog were over my house at least 4 times a week. My daughter and I have become very attached to him as he is with us. My ex still keeps in contact with me either by telephone or e-mail. He was not happy with my decision to break up. He thinks I am running from my feelings for him. My daughter wanted to see this dog on the condition that we would have "visitation rights"-I know it sounds silly. We would visit this dog when my ex was out of the house. For the past few months we have done this once a week. We would pick him up and take him to the park then return him back to his house. I just loved spending time with the dog. No one knows we do this. If anyone knew, they would think that this is encouraging both of us to get back together. I know deep down inside this is not going to happen. My ex hopes differently. Knowing all this, I still want my ex to call me, e-mail me, and want me. Am I needy? Why do I still want this knowing that I am not going back with him? We had dated for 7 years. He is a good conversationalist and we were always friends before becoming b/f and g/f. How do I let go?
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--- Wednesday, February 23, 2005 - Time heals all
Answer by: bam
From reading your post couple things stood out.....You really care about that dog u made it sound that your more unhappy leaving the dog then you are your ex which i doubt is the case. As far as you being needy yes and no. If you wanna let go of all this you cant have him emailing you and calling you cause theres know way of letting go when this is happening. But since you guys are friends even before the relationship happen you need to tell him that there isnt any hope for the both of u and over time you will let go cause in the end "Time heals all" how much time now? Depends on you in finding another person to be with or buy another dog
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