Title: I want her back but I don't know if it will happen

By: tromag

I was in a relationship with this girl for about 8 years. We broke up and I realized what a mistake I made and had been trying to get her back for the past two years. It seemed like things were going to work out and then she suddenly stopped communicating with me. I found out that she had met someone that she said has went through the same things that she had went through.

By meaning the same things she had went through, she meant the same things I did to her. I would lie to her, I cheated on her once and towards the end I just didn't really give her the place that she deserved. We still talk as friends, in fact we just recently spent a day runing around taking care of errands and had lunch. She said that there are still things that she can only talk to me about (financial matters) because the rest of her family or friends don't know about the debt of mine that she took on of mine when we were together.

She knows I still love her and I want her back but I haven't pushed the subject because I really don't have anything to offer her. In about four more months, I will have one year clean (I used to be addicted to drugs) and I want to make my intentions more clear to her. I have made big improvements in how I used to handle things and know that I have more to learn.

This person seems to be a nice person (and I don't try to compare myself to him or try to make him look bad, I just listen when she says anything about him.) from what she has said about him but she always says to me that he isn't that good looking and he is heavy (or "fluffy" as she prefers to say) and that he isn't what she thought she would date.

What I would like some advice on is what I should or, more importantly, shouldn't say to her. Should I bring up things from the past and should they be both good and bad to show her that I am aware of how I was and that I know I am different or should I just concentrate on how I am now and what I will be able to offer?

I know that what ever she says I will have to accept but I can't let it go without making a last attempt.

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Sunday, March 20, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses