Hey, well this might be kind of long, but I really need help on this. Well I dated this girl and then fell in love her with. She broke up with me after 2 months cuz she said that she sees me as more as a friend. When we were goin out at that time she also had feelings for this other guy. He wrote poems and everything about her. This is another reason why she broke up with me. 3 days after she did she went out with this other guy. Then she broke up with him cuz it wasnt goin that good and she started liking me again. Then I took her back cuz i missed her so much. All my friends didnt want me goin back out with her cuz they sed she makes me down and stuff. I also started to cut becuz she did. Then this relationship lasted a month and she broke up with me again. This time cuz she sed that she thinks we arent meant for each other. Theres this other girl that liked me for awhile. But then my ex wanted to get back togther again for a 3rd time, but I didn't know if i should cuz there was this other girl. I picked the other girl. This other girl is considered the biggest slut in her grade. But she doesnt seem like it. But im goin out with her now. I still really miss my ex and what we did together. Theres so many things that remind me of her and i miss it. All my friends hate me ex now cuz they said shes a bitch because i always told them what she did to me and stuff. Now my ex doesnt want to ever go out with me again cuz i picked a "slut" over her. She said I'm naive, listen to what other people say, and a dumbass. This is really hard for me to get over her and I like want her back even though im goin out with someone else. Please help. Thanks.
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--- Saturday, March 12, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
You keep going back again & again, this girl's like a drug & you really need to break this cycle of addiction...
Perhaps she picked you up, dropped you, picked you up, dropped you so easily because you let her... it happens, but it's not something you do to someone you love no matter how naive they may be. Real relationships don't work with games.
She shows no respect to you or the girl you're with now. Who is she to call your girlfriend a "slut", I mean... come on! Wake up & give that coffee a good sniff, the only person who seems to fit that description is the person who calls on you when it suits her, then when she's had enough she goes right ahead & spits you out.
I agree with Marek, she's got some serious growing up to do. You don't mess around with people's feelings like that, especially when you see for yourself the affect it has on them.
Cut the ties for your own well being. Harming yourself is never the answer & you should toss anyone who makes you feel as though this is some sort of "release" out of your life. For good. With no return ticket.
If you need someone to talk to, go to your doctor who will be able to arrange some counselling, this might help to find the real cause for these desires. Something makes you go back to her & it can't be the happiness you had with her... because it sounded pretty pants.
Rid her from your life & if you find you still have a problem with self-harm, you really need to seek professional help. There are people out there who can offer you support. Plus there are partners out there who will make you happy, so if you aren't finding this with your new girlfriend - some "single-time" may be just what you need. You need to make peace with yourself.
Good luck
--- Friday, March 11, 2005 -
Answer by: Marek
wow. If that was me, I wouldn't go back to your ex. She's just using you, knowing that you still want her makes her think that she can just keep coming back to you. (like a door, she opens it and closes it whenever she wants.) I think that she needs to grow up, she doesn't know what she wants. I wouldn't go back to her. Show her that you don't like her anymore, be strong and don't give in to her. If she knows that you still like her then you need to work on being hard. She's learnd to play with your feelings and i wouldn't take that anymore if i were you. But you've got a new girlfriend and keep her in your mind all the time, it will help with working out the ex.
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