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What do I do? Do I keep trying to convince him?
By: cspoor
I have been dating a really great guy for about 5 months now. Last weekend he hurt my feelings and without thinking, I broke up with him. Hindsight is 20/20 I guess because now I realized my true feelings for him. I am in so in love with him and I can't believe I ended things so quickly and especially without thinking first. I tried all last week to make up with him and I know he loves me too, he is just scared of me snapping like that and hurting him again. Two nights ago he came over and just held me because we are both really sad about our breakup. It was nice but in the end, very misleading. Yesterday morning he called me and said he loves me and doesn't want to wonder what could have happened between us. He asked me if I would give us another chance and of course I said yes. Then this morning he called and said that he thinks that I feel more confident about us working out then he does and he doesn't want to hurt me if things don't work out. I have basically been in disbelief because of how hap-hazard and careless he is being with my feelings. He then called me an hour later and was crying and saying lets just take a break and then figure something out.
To be honest, I can't handle this emotional rollercoaster anymore. I don't want to let him go completely because things were great between us and I know that they could be again. He really is a great man. On the other hand though, I am so angry and hurt by him that I can't stand it. No matter what, I want to leave this with some dignity intact but I am scared of giving up because I know in my heart this could be a wonderful and beautiful relationship if it's given another chance. Please help me, any advice is appreciated.
Responses to this article:
--- Monday, April 11, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
It's normal that when a relationship is ending -- you feel like you want to hold on. It's hard to let go of the good times you shared, but then you have to weigh in the reasons of WHY the relationship is ending. It sounds like both of you don't know what you want at this time; it sounds like he upsets you, and he is confused. It may be best for you two to end things for now, until you decide what it is that you both want, and if the relationship is worth salvaging.
--- Tuesday, March 29, 2005 - wow
Answer by: eskemo
Well first what did he do? To make you break up with him like that. And just because you're taking a break doesnt mean it's over all the sudden. Why don't you take a break andsee where your feelings lead when you aren't talking to each other...If you really believe it can work dont go to the point and end the relationship. Which im sure is what you felt when he hurt you and you realized "ohmygod what am i doing?" And if things dont work out..its not the end of the world but it hurts to think you were actually in love and then its all the sudden.....over. Im not sure waht to tell you i wasnt help but yeaaah. =)
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