Title: Torn Between 2 women and 5 kids

By: ppedregon

I have posted here twice before, perhaps some of you will remember. Back in 2003 I posted an article about my relationship ( married 10 years )that went sour do to financial hardship, I lost my job and when things got tough my wife got the kids and left me with a house in forclosure and two cars in repo. Had no job for eleven months and wife would not help me out even though I begged. She hasnt had to work since 1992. We seperated for 13 months, In this time.. I met another woman and had an affair or whatever because at the time wife was gone and we were seperated. Here is where my second article comes into play and the people on this site called me trash and said I deserved to die and thats about all the feedback I got after that article, keep in mind that when I posted the first article everybody said to ditch the wife and move on with my new love. So it kinda shows what happens when you go with advise of others. But I am really in need of help here. Ok, during the time I was seperated, wife gone I managed to rent rooms and make the mortgage payement and get out of forclosure, strangers helped me save my home.

I found a job and started the recovery process. I continued to see this woman I met and things were ok. Hey I had a job. Anyways, My wife started comming around and asking when she can come back now that the storm had cleared, asked me to tell room renters to leave and promised she would this time help me with the mortgage and get a job. This was December of 2003, she had left me back in 2002 a year before. I had really been missing my three kids and decided to take this chance and I ok'd her to come back and said you need to work because I saved the house and went through hell to keep it. She promised. So, she moved back in at the end of January 04. Now here is where the crap hits the fan, The woman I was dating and spending time with calls me up and tells me she is pregnant with twins. I tell her well you know I amback with my wife and i advise abortion, she refuses and says she is going to keep them and doesnt beleive in abortion. She asks me to leave my wife and come back to her now that here are children, she tells me my wife had let me down and why am I doing this. So, kids in school and I had to give my wife a chance that I promised. Well to make a long story short. Wife did not get the job, I had to sell my house for below market to avoid another forclosure in August of 2004 and I bascially lost seven years of hard work and my everything that being my home. Say about 150,000 in equity I walked away with 30K.

So now I rent a old house and my wife and kids are still with me, to this day I ask my wife about work, bring her applications I pick up for her when I talk to employers about jobs for her.. ive done this before.. I ask her about maybe school and she just looks at me with a blank stare and doesnt talk about it. On the other end I have a woman who is 7 years younger with my twins ( boy-girl) working full time, trying to go to school and now raising the twins on her own. I help pay her bills and provide cash and diapers. She wants me to come back to her and father the twins. The wife wants me to run and have no contact with them, the babies and their mom. My dilema is that I love my first three children so much and dont want to leave them without a father, but at the same time I feel as if all the stress and problems of life are all on my shoulders and my wife is like a 4th child. I do hold it against here about the outcome of us losing our home. I

ts super hard because then I left another woman to deal with two children on her own and those kids were born into this world without their father in their lives. I am so torn and sometimes I feel like ending my world, but I am smart enough to know that I have five kids depending on me. I feel bad because the children suffer in either direction I go in. I tell my wife that I beleive I changed the course of time when I brought her back. If she would have never come back things would have turned out so different, the twins mom feels the same and wonders why I didnt give her and her children a chance. Anyways, I know some of you are going to bash me like you did last time. But some solid advise will be greatly appreciated.

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Monday, April 11, 2005 -
Answer by: sam

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Thursday, March 31, 2005 - didn't read it all
Answer by: Lance_19