I met this guy about 2 weeks ago & totally against what I would normally do, I slept with him.. he is 18 & I am 29. The age difference is/was bothering me but we totally clicked, there was alot of chemistry between us.. He is very mature for his age & he is (well has been) very sweet, caring & considerate up until now. We have spent everyday since we met together & I am developing some deep feelings for him. 3 days ago he said he was coming over to see me but he never showed up & he didnt even call me, the next day he said he fell asleep so I brushed it off, then the next day after that he came over & he was acting strange..he did not want to kiss me or touch me at all & he said that he didnt want me to think that sleeping with me was the only reason he came over & when he left he told me to call him the next day, when I called the next day he didnt answer so I didnt call back, that was last night. I have asked him before to be honest with me but I dont think he is, I know he is young & full of .... but i cant help these fellings I have for him, what do I do? Do I back off? I think he is seeing someone else but I mean why wont he just tell me? I told him I would be fine with it if he were honest but he keeps telling me that I'm being silly. ~sigh~ help! I feel really stupid because I know I'm to old for him.. or am I? Do you think he's playing me? I wanna talk to him about this but I dont know what to say to him.. any suggestions? any advise or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
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--- Friday, April 1, 2005 - I've been there as the younger man
Answer by: ppedregon
I can totally relate as the younger guy sleeping with the older woman and now at 34 sleeping with the younger woman. Let me tell you my view point when I was the 18 year old dating women in their late twenties and early thirties. You will become a memory and the "oldest" notches on his belt. Right now he is intriqued by a older woman.. full of expereince, serious and probably very sexy to him. At that age a guy takes nothing serious and he is going to have girls his age all around as well as guy friends as he continues to age. You at 29 should already be expereinced enough to know that this is temporary and you should not get involved to the point where you start becomming attached to him. Even though he seems very mature, the boy is not mentally ready for a 29 year old woman to fall for him.. your a woman and your on a different level. In my opinion, have as much meaningless sex with this guy and enjoy the ride but do not take this serious. As the older man dating younger females... That was just a waste of good effort and time, but hell the sex was wild.
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