I have been exclusively seeing a gentleman for about a year and a half and have even discussed getting married. We have both been under a lot of stress lately (work, family, friends, etc.) and have been taking out on one another and fighting a lot. We recently decided to take a "time out" for a few days and figure out what we wanted to do after having a horrible fight basically over nothing (tiny / petty things like not calling on time or being sarcastic). While we agreed to try to work things out, I have not seen my boyfriend in over a week (we usually see each other at least 2 times per week) and while we have tried to set up plans, he has cancelled the last few times. Should I just take this as a sign that his heart is not in it and try to let go? I want to be with him, but I certainly don't want to keep him in a relationship out of guilt or obligation if he wants to move on. HELP!
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--- Thursday, April 14, 2005 -
Answer by: waiting4luv
Hun I would let him have his time to think, if you really love him & he really loves you & it was meant to be then you guys will work it out.. but for the time being I would just chill out.. dont call him, let him call you and if he breaks a date then just play it cool. It sounds like he is not ready for whatever reason to jump back into the relationship just yet & maybe this time apart will make the both of you realize just how silly the fights were and how much you really do love one another.
--- Tuesday, April 12, 2005 -
Answer by: sam
Why would you throw your relationship away when you don't even know how HE feels or thinks? Why don't you sit down and have a LOVING TALK with HIM?
If you are willing to throw your relationship away over petty bickering, then I don't thnk you're ready to marry this guy, let alone THINK about it. Marriage is huge. It's for better or for worse, it's working problems out, it's communicating. If you can't do that now... then perhaps this relationship isn't for you. Do you even love this guy? I mean, seriously -- do you? Or, is this relationship just "convenient" for you? You have some thinking to do... and some talking to do with HIM.
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