Sam and Emma I hope both of you will respond! Anyone else feel free to leave your advice if you'd like.
Here is an update of my situation... So the guy I went to the movie with. The one who wants to hang out, but it never happens and the one sending me all the flirty texts. Then I spent that Friday night with him for a couple hours and he kissed me, I thought the kiss was a little ackward. Then he sent me the text telling me he'd like to kiss me again sometime.
I text him the day after to hang out and he said he already made plans. Then I text him again like four days later just to say hi and I hope he was having a good week. I know I shouldn't have text him the text day, but I was so happy about the night before.
So since the next last Tuesday or Wednesday, I haven't tried to contact him anymore. Unfortunately he hasn't tried to contact me either.
So should I take this as a hint he's not interested in me any further? Should I try to contact him once more and ask him to hang out?
Another thing...I've heard conflicting things about his current relationship status. I have two friends of mine, one is an aquaintance of his and the other is a friend of his. The aquaintance is the one who told me he has a girlfriend. I think he told me this somewhat because he is dating the best friend of this "so-called" girlfriend, so I'm not sure how accurate this information is. The friend of ours told me no he's not seeing/dating her, that he never has been. That he thinks this girl just thinks they are dating. I can see this as conflicting info. as well because it did seem like "my" guy was dating this girl in Dec., but who knows. What everyone considers to be dating now adays is different. So I'm not sure whether to take this into account about wanting to pursue things with him.
As much as I wish I could just get over him, it's hard. We always have such great times when we are together, at least I think we do. He makes me feel so good about myself and happy. So I'm not sure how much more to push this "relationship."
Thanks!
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--- Thursday, May 19, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Hey Summer, thanks for the open invitation to respond (not that it matters much to me) :-)
Okay, I don't think you should contact him again... a woman should never be seen "chasing" too much & I think it's pretty ignorant if he is just ignoring your attempts because of your hesitance over this darn kiss!
It's priority time... this guy need to prove he's worth getting & if he's interested he will be in touch. So really, my advice is to wait it out - you've given him the opportunity, now it's up to him to act on it... if a relationship is on the cards, that is...
As for all of this "dating talk", really - if he's ever going to be yours you need to be able to trust what he says & if you're in any doubt as to whether he might be seeing someone I say leave well alone - but you can cross this bridge when you next hang out with him.
I would say though Summer, don't pin all of your hopes on the one guy. Any man will be lucky to have found a woman like you, always remember that. I believe Sam said before that love isn't "forced", it just happens naturally so if it doesn't go to plan, save your heart for someone who's worthy of it.
Time will tell. Be casual & have fun. If he doesn't make the call, it's his loss & he wasn't worth your emotions.
Of course, I really hope he gets in touch, the rumours aren't true & you get all the kisses your heart desires :-)
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