Brian's 4 years older than me - We found out eventually over time as we got to talking. He is an artist and his personality can be shy - (popular but shy).
He was getting over a year and a half relationship, so we weren't anything official for months.
He would go through periods of being distant but he always came back to me. I was supportive and gave him space when he needed it.
Apart from his distance, our relationship was ideal - interdependent, supportive, caring. At times, I felt deeply respected by him. I felt he even looked up to me.
This went on for 8 months.
Gradually, I heard rumors and wrote him a letter about them - could have been a mistake.
It was a very mature letter and well put, not agreeing or disagreeing, but I wonder if it instead lowered his self esteem and made him withdraw from me because..
I havn't talked to him since. He hasn't picked up his calls and I heard he's dating someone already when it took him months to get involved with me. And the girl.. slightly looks like me and is the same age as me. Do you think he could be rebounding?
The girl is very controlling and has felt threatened to the point where she took my number from a friends cell phone and called to herass me.
I heard she made Brian promise and say that he hasn't talked to me.
I fortunately had the opportunity to talk to his little brother about it.
His little brother comforted me and said he understood and would be concerned as well. He said Brian's talked of me and has mentioned me and said he doesn’t think Brian is with anyone. Still Brian doesn't call.
I want my baby back. Please help.
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--- Monday, May 23, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Brian needs to break free.
This doesn't sound healthy at all & you shouldn't blame yourself because of this letter you wrote... all of this may have been coming for a while, I don't know but something like that wouldn't make him react this way. This lady he's involved with now sounds pretty mean & insecure...
Insecurity pretty much sums up the relationship they're having... if it's stable, happy & healthy - there shouldn't be any controlling aspects, mind games or threats to ex's... it all sounds pretty depressing...
I like Kisses suggestion. You have to meet up with him, to find out what's going on & the longer you leave it the harder it's going to be! Try to arrange something, try to be supportive... see where it leads...
Best of luck
--- Sunday, May 22, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
Maybe the other girl called you and makes sure that Brian isnt talking to you because she's jealous or envious of what you and Brian had in the past. She might want the kind of relationship you two had, but the only way she knows how to establish that kind of realtionship is to, in a sence, force it.
I wouldn't get too hung up on that other girl and what she thinks of you, you should just call Brian or meet him somewhere for lunch on of these days. I don't know how, but find a way to see him or at least talk to him. Ask him what's new with him, how he's doing and what's up with the other girl. Show him you're still interested in him and signal to him that you still have feeling about him and want to be with him. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way and knows the break up between the two of you was a mistake.
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