ok... i am so in love with this girl who shared the same feelings... we were only friends and we were real close, but somehow somewhere i screwed up and she ended our friendship. After she ended it, i confessed to her that i loved her, but she wouldnt react... long story.. but anyway after she ended our friendship, one of her friends told me that she had feelings for me. i was so astounded.... but she just ignored me..
after a while, she approached me again and she told me that she was sorry, but tht she had changed.. she no longer had feelings for me, and in fact liked someone else, one of my friends. i was really hurt.. but anyway, we didnt go back as friends becuz she knew how i felt and we barely even said a word to eachother...
one day she caught me talkin to one of her friends, and then i remember the next day she was talking to her friend, and she told her that she wasnt going to change so i should just forget about her, it was so painful for me... after a couple of suicide attempts, i still feel the same way, but just cant approach her.. but she also got over my friend, they never went out.. she didnt like who he was...
well, its now 5 months later since she ended our friendship, and we handt said anythin to eachother for a long time.. but just this tuesday, she talked to one of my friends about me, and she asked him if I was quiet... it seems like such a random question. i mean we knew eachother very well, and now shes askin my friend if Im quiet??? my friend told her tht i wasnt but i would open up to u if u got ot know me and became my friend. but now ive gotten my hopes up all over again.... the only rational explanations i could think of as to why she would ask such a question are that she is concerned about me and cares, or maybe she would like to get to know me again, and had a change of heart.... i mean for months she showed no compassion or concern for my feelings, and she just wanted me to get over it... but i mean, why would would she ask this if she didnt care
so i was wondering, do u see any hope for me??? im just afraid tht im getting my hopes up for nothing?? do u think she may have come around at last?? thnkx for ur time ben
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--- Sunday, May 8, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
I agree with kisses (cute name!) in as much as we are only really guessing as to what her intentions are - perhaps, she has had a change of heart & wants to begin getting to know you from scratch again, maybe she is trying to check out, in a roundabout way, whether you're doing okay without her in your life...
But Ben, if there is ever going to be any relationship for the two of you in the future; you need to start talking again. All of this going through friends confuses things & makes situations awkward when you do start a conversation with her.
The reasons why you screwed up & the depression you suffered when things broke down are, hopefully, all in the past. You can't undo these things, all you can do is become independent & confident for yourself... this all stands you in good stead to hold onto a good relationship... whether it be with this girl or someone else later down the line...
Take things slowly, talk to her but don't let things get too heavy. Get to know each other & don't mention the things that have happened. Start a fresh with an open mind... think of a friendship as something which is just as important as a relationship, that way your hopes won’t be dashed.
Best of luck, I hope you are able to at least salvage a friendship from all of this.
--- Saturday, May 7, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
well...you're right, maybe she really does want to get to know you agian. Maybe she finally realizes what a great person and friend you are and that she made a mistake of ending your friendship. I dont know if i'd get my hoped up quite yet, maybe she wanted to make sure you're doing ok, but had no intentions of talking to you yet, it may have been her way to see that she doesnt have anything to worry about and that you're doing just fine without her, but i can tell that you really want to be her friend again. the way you tallk about her shows that you really cared about her and loved her, and the day that she ended your friendship was the day she broke your heart. I really hope things get better for you...good luck!
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