Please read an anylise the three situations in my "Two Situations (Short Post)" thread on here?
My problem is, i really want to try spur a little something, though i dont know how, i know i have the confidence quite often to flirt with her etc... but the hard thing is getting that opportunity?
She only lives opposite me, but i only see her when we cross in the pat walking up to or out of our homes, she always says "hi" (which is just friendly terms anyway, i know (you need to read other post), but she's either with friends or it's just not often enough i see her to talk to (like the kitchen window situation for example).
Can anyone give me any ideas/clue's here on how to spur a conversation with her, so i can ask her out or whatever?
I know that it's not down to rushing things, thats wrong i guess ??? & i shouldnt worry & just wait for the opportunity, but their is the question if what if the opportunity comes late?
Thank you all who reply !
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, May 19, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Hello again!
I can totally understand it being difficult & I realise us saying find the opportunity, chat, flirt & so on but often the more you think about it, the more you rehearse potential situations - the more nerve racking you become & the more "false" you appear when it comes to the crunch... that's why so many people get too scared & talk themselves out of it...
I suggest... when you feel in a confident mood, you knock on her door & ask if she'd like to go out for a drink with you sometime... say you've noticed her around, you've not got anything planned that night...
I know it's direct & not too dissimilar to Kara's advice but if chance meetings are few & far between, could you come up with some excuse to do that? A new bar in town, something like that...
I know it's scary but the direct approach might just work (I know it would with me personally, if I'd noticed a guy from afar... in fact, I'd really admire his guts)...
I really hope you can muster up the confidence to go "direct", either she turns it down or she takes you up on it & since you don't bump into her that often, it won't be that big a deal will it?
That's my advice, take a deep breath & be spontaneous, girls like that, confidence is darn sexy ;-)
Best of luck! Keep us posted!
--- Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - I will also add
Answer by: ek
Something i find kinda confusing, if you look at the two situations post aswell, a couple of small incidents have happened but i dont know if im reading into them too much.
I went out with my little brother the other day, was walking up the path, he ran in to get his jumper so i walked back up the path while he was going to get it, someone who visits her house opposite arrive & she came to the door & opened it to let them in, now i dont know if she nmormally does that or if she did that cause i was there (probably not, i dont know), but she did anyway & she did take a look at me (& vica versa).
That could be nothing, or it could be something, i dont know, this is my fault, i realise that, though am trying hard to overcome it 7 not analyse everything, however if you dont analyse anything you have no idea do you?, so it's a catch 22 situation.
Sometimes i can feel confident in myself, others not so confident (as ll people are i think), though i have noticed her look at me through her kitchen window & take time to look at me (tonight this person who visited her boefre (of which i believe is her brother) was selling his car, i was looking at the car, i guess he noticed me looking at the car with my mate & she turned round & looked out aswell (obviously), though i didnt really look at her too much so dont know what kind of reaction that was.
It's a strange world we live in isnt it? lol
--- Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - Thats a bit hard
Answer by: ek
Thanks for that response Kara, however, she lives on her own, she's only in her early 20's & i can't really knock on her door just asking to do anything as i don't really know her personally.
Aaaaah, i dont know what to say or do anymore, sometimes the signals seem strong & other times they aren't, like Emma said in another post, from what i have mentioned (of which is the exact way things have happened), she's more or less said she's screaming out as if to say "get to know me" , though i havent been able to & maybe she's getting bored of that now & giving up, i dont know?
Or maybe she's had a change of mind, or just likes the attention kind of thing, i dont know.
I am useless though i do like this girl
--- Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - hey
Answer by: white_rose_dion
I know this isn't much advice... But come up with a reason to go to her house, like offer to her parents to mow the lawn or something so that she won't have to, and there's your excuse to use the bathroom or something and talk to her while she's there.. Offer to do some house work, so that she see's you around her house often even if she's not there all the time. This does require some waiting, but not long, (her parents may [after a while of work] ask you around to stay for dinner) then you can start a really good conversation, and let her parents get to know you (if they already don't).. Also, girls like men who work for what they want, and eventually (even while you are working in the yard or something) you can tell her the real reason for working there... I mean it's a detailed plan, but it'd work, at least that's what my dad did for the girl he liked in high school... (yeah i know it was a while ago, but it'd still work)... Well anyways, there are otherways of doing that same thing, I hope all goes well. Love from a friend,
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