This is an update on my last post ("I'm Confused ~ Is he interested or not?")...and if you have a moment, I could really do with some more advice..
Okay, so today I had coffee with our mutual friend. She (as ALWAYS) brought him up into the conversation, and I gathered up my courage (there's not much of it to gather really!!) and said "So what's the deal with him?" She asked what I meant, and I said why did everyone always say we'd be such a good match etc She asked me if I liked him, and all I could say was "I don't know...I don't even know him properly". I said again I didn't think he liked me, anyway. She asked why, and I said because he never talks to me. She said because I'm so shy that I might MAKE it hard to talk to me, which is probably true, even though I don't mean it to be.
Now, my point is ~ if I found it SOOOOOOOOO hard & utterly embarrassing just to say that much to her, how am I ever going to be able to say ANYTHING to him?? I know its kinda pathetic, but I can't help it. I couldn't even look at her when we were talking about it, and I blushed bright red the whole time.
There's going to be a cocktail party this Saturday night (very casual) that I think he & I will both be at...at least I will be there, and I know he's been invited.
Assuming we're both there....
I was wondering if anyone could think of ways I could let him know I'm interested, without actually going up & saying so directly. I really don't think I could manage that at this stage, but I really would like to get to know him a bit better, so I can find out if we ARE such a great match.
Any good conversation starters? Any ways I can respond to things he does/says that will show I like him? ANYTHING?!!?
Hehe, thanks again in advance for any opinions/advice you can give. You guys are awesome!!
Responses to this article:
--- Friday, May 20, 2005 - thanks
Answer by: WistfulLucy
Thanks kisses. I appreciate you taking the time to answer me.
--- Wednesday, May 18, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
For starters, maybe just to build up your confidence (I know this event is coming up soon, and this won't happen over night...) when yo see people whether it be in a public place like a mall or something like just in a hallway, even if you dont know the person, just give them a friendly "hello". For example: if you find yourself walking down the hallway, or something, and another person is coming toward you and your both looking at eachother, say "hi" but if another person is distracted or preoccupied, just let it go.
I don't know if letting someone know how you feel about them through someone else is such a good idea. Then you get the whole "he said, she said" thing going on and it can get kinda of confusing, and annoying at times-you know what I mean? If I were you, I'd wait until I felt confortable talking to him personally.
Maybe at this cocktail party you can just go up to him and start a friendly conversation, and not come right out and tell him how you feel about him. Build up the relationship and get to know eachother better, and who knows-he might began to feel the same way towards you!
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