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Need some ideas fast!! This is WistfulLucy!
By: WistfulLucy
Hi guys!
Sorry to be a pain, but I found out today that he *IS* definitely going to be at the cocktail party (see post "confused again" for details).
Its TOMORROW NIGHT!!! So would really really really REALLY love to get some pointers/tips/advice of how to show him I like him.
I don't want to go up & say "Hey I like you" or throw myself at him. I just want some ideas of what to say, how to act, how to respond to what HE says that might give him the clue I'm interested, or at least willing to be his friend.
PLEASE HELP!!! I'M FREAKING OUT HERE!!!!
Responses to this article:
--- Saturday, May 21, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
Like i said before, you don't have to let him know how you feel about him right away. Give him a chance to get to know you first. Go up and start a friendly conversation. I'm sticking with what i had said before
--- Friday, May 20, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Hi Lucy!
Sorry not to have responded to your last post - I am following your plight though, your style of writing is whimsical & candid, it's a joy to read :-)
Okay... so the "Hey, I like you" is way OTT and you're right in pointing that out! First off, he'll think you're some crazed loon & secondly it's not really playing it cool...
A few tips from me -
- smile & try to maintain eye contact (don't overdo it though, otherwise you'll look insane & put him right off). Just enough to make that connection!
- sound interested in what he says... no matter how bland or unimaginative, ask him to expand on it... just sound as though you'd like to find out more about him, he'll love it!
- ask questions. You can never know enough really, whether you're looking to acquire a friend or partner, it's always good to find out about his interests, then it'll be easier to keep the conversation flowing...
- flirt... verge on bimbo if you must... send out those vibes that you enjoy being around him, see how he reacts! Subtle first...
- try & get his number or, if things appear to be going well & you feel forward enough, give him yours. You don't need any major excuse if the conversations going well, just exchange numbers - no big deal, you don't have it but you'd like it.
- oh yeah, after reading your post one more time, in response to the closing line - RELAX & be yourself... or at least try to. Don't push yourself too far just be as confident as you can be.
Keep us posted on how it goes! All you need is that bit of confidence, I know it can be scary to just approach someone like this - but you need to get a conversation going (no matter how brief) at least... start with something like - "hey, how you doing? You having a good time?" then go from there, commenting on your surroundings, the cocktails and so on...
Easy as pie, you can do this! Whatever you do, don't chicken out completely - at least make the approach - hey! You might not even have to if he's in a confident mood ;-)
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