There is a girl whom I don't really know, and no matter how much I am interested in her probably wont get to know any better, this is basically because it could cause problems down the line.
First of all let me define a few things, she is the sister of a coworker/friend and a on/off friend of mine, and quite a bit younger than me, not illegally young, just quite a bit younger. These are factors that I feel could be problems. Less extenuating circumstances is the fact I work on the 3rd floor of a college library in a computer lab.
What's caught my eye about her is she seems kind of quirky around me, at times she's normal, not even taking notice of me, at least I don't think she is and hope she isn't, at other times she is out right confusing.
There have been several occurrences that I have observed her, or in one case someone else doing while she's there, which have me confused, and probably misinterpreting what’s actually going on.
One thing that I've seen her do several times is coming up to the floor her sister and I work on and then taking one look into the area we work and not coming any closer.
Another similar thing she does is to come up to the floor come right up to the divider that separates the hallway from the area I work in, I notice her and look away for a second, and when I look back she has shot off back around the corner. You know the way a cat acts when it doesn't want to be seen, very flighty, it'll come around a corner and do a quick turn right back where it came from.
Several instances occurred when I was on break (not at work but at work if you know what I mean).
There is a foyer and several places to sit on the first floor, which is where I usually end up, and can often be found just sitting there or trying (the appropriate word for it) to take a nap.
First off this girl and her younger sister tend to be very quite and on one occasion, along with their brother, have decided to have loud conversations next to the door of the foyer, in the foyer, while I was asleep, this not only is a good way to get me to notice what's going on, its also a good way to aggravate me, because I don't sleep very much in the first place. On this occasion I did notice she was staring in my direction, but this could have been a blank stare or just looking at something behind me, who knows.
Second she often will either hasten her walk or drastically slow it down when passing me, a lot of people at the place are in a hurry, but seeing she doesn't have anything really to do at the school, she's not a student yet, she doesn't have any reason to be in a rush, and as for walking extremely slow, you've got me there, most people are either walking fast to get some were, walking normally, you know not in a rush, but still going some were, or walking slowly with a friend or significant other, usually not walking slow alone.
Third event occurred a few weeks back, her and her younger sister came in to the library, I noticed they stopped for a moment and had a short conversation, I don't know what was said, I would probably understand what happened next better if I knew, but I also tend to try not listening to anybody's conversations because I find it generally intrusive and often gives you information you really didn't want to know. Well then they enter the library, where I'm sitting, from the foyer, which has a glass divider in between the library and it, and then her younger sister says something like come on, and starts trying to drag her over in my direction, while she continues in the same direction she was going, I'm sure this could have been her younger sister joking with her, because I'm sure her younger sister could have pulled her where ever she wanted her to go.
What's your take on this?
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--- Friday, May 20, 2005 -
Answer by: HumboltPenguin
It is strange, I am attracted to her, but I don't want to be. Also, I don't see how she could be remotely interested in me, seeing if her sisters told her any stories about me they wouldn't show me in a flattering light, atleast as far as I know.
--- Thursday, May 19, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
All of that sounds pretty weird...
Are you attracted to her? Is that why you want to understand how she's behaving? Or is it just annoying?
Whatever your reason, it seems she is definitely shy... the whole - letting her sister drag her around could indicate a lack of confidence, a low self-esteem, perhaps and also immaturity... though you'll only find this out if you go ahead & talk to her!
Kisses, gives the only piece of advice any of us can give, be casual - say Hi at least, try her out in a polite "weather" conversation...
I wouldn't be too disheartened by the age thing, many younger women find the older man very attractive, for many reasons & my gut instinct is this lady has definitely noticed you and, it seems, you've noticed her ;-)
Take a chance, it sounds like you're desperate to know what's going on here & so are we!
Best of luck!
--- Wednesday, May 18, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
i read your situation and i'm not really sure what your question is...if it's whether she likes you or wants to get to know you better, my guess is as good as yours. I'm a fairly optimistic person, so in this case, i'll say that maybe you should go up to her and just strike up a casual conversation. Nothing too out of the ordinary, but something that will leave her the impression that you're a pretty interesting person, and she wants to get to know you better. Maybe the reason she hasn't really come up to you herself yet is that she's a bit shy, but if you go up and talk to her, she might open up a bit more. I hope I helped, I did the best I could given your situation. Good luck!
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