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I need help with my relationship very badly
By: JNorman
Hello I need help my girlfriend went out of town. For three weeks, she is still out of town now. I cheated on her. We have been dating for a year now. I cheated on her with a girl I didn't even know or care about. I guess I did it because I missed someone holding me or something I don't know. I need help I need emotional help. I am extremely depressed. I know I need to tell her I already know that. I am just scared of the outcome. Someone told me if she loves me she wont leave me. I don't know if that is true. I miss her extremely. I am a horrible person. The girl I did that with I had sex with and I hated every second of it. I thought of my girlfriend the hole time while I was doing it. Your suppose to feel like when you have sex. I felt hate inside me and I jus hated myself. I need help please help me.
Responses to this article:
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 - Well...
Answer by: HumboltPenguin
First off I'm a guy, with girl troubles, but thats neither here nore there. But if you must know what to do, think about what you did and maybe it'll tramatise you enough to were you wont do that again while in a relationship.
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
well, you better figure out what you're gonna do. Like i said before, just tell her the truth and whatever happens is not something you're gonna be able to predict.
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 - ...
Answer by: JNorman
Okay maybe I didn't hate it I don't know how to explain it. I was feeling regret as I was getting into it. Like whenever she kissed me when we were having sex it wasn't what I was use to and I didn't like it it wasn't like fireworks with my girlfriend. I don't know how to explain it. I will tell her the truth I honestly just know what to do until I do tell her when she gets back.
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 -
Answer by: kisses
I completely agree with HumboltPenguin...she's absolutely right! If you hated every minute of it and were thinking about your gf the whole time, you wouldn't have gone through with it. And if you tell your gf that story, she's just gonna think, as HumboltPenguin said, that you're trying anything and everything to get her back and to make her forgive you, even if it means lying. You have to fess up and be a man about what you did. Tell her the TRUTH, and if she doesnt forgive you, I'm going to have to say that you probably deserve it because you went into that "affair" knowing it could screw up the relationship. I'm not goint to say that what you gf did by cheating on you before was right, but am going to say that just kissing someone is a bit, no A LOT different than having sex with someone, althought they're both cheating. Good luck with whatever happens, and whatever happens will be your consequences.
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 - ...
Answer by: JNorman
Maybe your right I don't know maybe I was having morning regrets honestly I don't know what to do. She cheated on me once with her exboyfriend. They didn't have sex but to me cheating is cheating. When she told me she kissed him and stuff and she said she wanted a break to see who she wants I grab her and said "I will support you with no matter what choice you make" and I did that. And I stuck by her and supported her. Now I just hope she does the same.
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 - I don't know...
Answer by: HumboltPenguin
Maybe to try to convince yourself that its true, if you tell yourself something enough you will soon believe it yourself. Here's the deal maybe if you were drunk off your rocker when it happend it would be a bit more of a believable story, but the problem is you didn't say you were, which leads me to believe that you went into the "affair" full knowing what you were doing, if you tell your girlfriend that story she will see it as a lie, true or not, and she will dump you, your best option is to tell her you did it and regret what you did and don't say anything about not enjoying it or thinking of her, she will not find any of the story flattering and she probably will find it offincive and think your trying to pull a fast one on her. If you hated it so much you should have filed rape charges against the other woman because you would have been an unwilling participant in the act.
--- Friday, May 27, 2005 - escusses
Answer by: JNorman
Why would I lie on something that she isn't even going to see. As I was doing it I wasn't enjoying it. I hated it. I honestly did I am not lying about that.
You know what, you screwed up, and I wouldn't try that lame-ass lie about not enjoying it and all that other BS on your girl friend, and I wouldn't blame her if it was soon to be ex-girl friend. You did it by choice, and if you were so concerned about your girl friend and missed her so much you wouldn't have done it at all. You probably did enjoy it entirelly and had next morning regrets, and even if you do belive you didn't enjoy it, thats probably a phycological change of facts incured on your part by your regrets at what you did, my best advice is fess up to it without any exusses and hope to God your girl friend forgives you.
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