My wife and I have been together for 4 years, we have gone through everything and always seemed to make it out alright. We have 3 beautiful children, 2 of which i adopted, and everything was great. Then, in february she met this guy and played him off as her "best friend" and i was oblivious to what was going on. I trusted her so much, I never thought she would cheat on me. I found out about the situation in may by proxy. Now, she is getting ready to move in with this guy, yet her and I have become closer than ever, not in a sexual nature, but a emotional, more open relationship. I have faith that this guy is just a phase, maybe a rebound because she doesn't want to split up with me and be on her own. There is more to the story, but i'll tell if deemed necessary.
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--- Thursday, June 23, 2005 - Bargaining
Answer by: fenix1230
BoNINwie,
First, I'm assuming you like Nine Inch Nails, which is cool. Now if you don't, and just want to make those three letters big for no apparent reason, you're an idiot.
Anyway, sounds like you've gotten past the first two stages of grief, and now you're on the third...Bargaining. I think you need to take a step outside, and really analyze the situation you've been placed in. I definitely feel that if this predicament was happending to someone else, you would know exactly what to do. As it is, you're feelings get in the way, and you can't even see your hand in front of your face.
Your cheating, adulterous, two-timing Hester Prynn of a whore deserves nothing less than a quick and expeditious divorce. I don't know where you live, and hopefully it's not California (Damn no fault state), but you should acquire a divorce attorney, and take this debauched slut for everything you can take.
She cheated on you....plain and simple. You have two adopted, and one biological child, and she basically mangled and trampled the sacred promise of matrimony with her iniqitous ways, and inability to close her legs. What's really distressing, is your equal and infuriating inability to realize what she is, and that this is no mere phase. This is something she intentionally and maliciously did against you and your children. She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
She loves having sex with this man, but is torn by her feelings for you and the children. She is selfish, and is using you to suit what she needs, not what is best for the relationships. Bottom line, you've become the best friend, and he's become the husband. Isn't that nice, you've been playing sexual chairs, and didn't even know it.
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