Okay. I love this girl. I really love her. I think about her every day, all that stuff. I've called her, but nothing really....happens. It's not like we really 'hang out' a lot or anything. I don't officially know if she will go to the high school I'm going to, but hey, she lives close by anyway. So, my question to you is, should I tell her how I feel? Knowing her, she could react in two, three ways. 1) she likes it, happy I said it, we end up together, all that. 2) she, uh, is not exactly as happy. she is somewhat frightened. Doesn't know how to react. You get the picture. Says we should try just being friends and all that. 3) Completely doesn't really know what to say. Ackward silence. Then....I can't see pass there. So, based on what you know and don't know, what do you think?
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--- Thursday, June 30, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Hey,
Well... the possible reactions you describe could really apply to any guy or girl who's being told how strongly one of their friends feels about them :-)
But from what you describe and since you don't really hang out, I would advise you to get to know her better... it'd be all too easy to jump in feet first, declaring your undying love but is that what it really is or are you just a little infatuated by her?
That's the thing and if, as I suspect, you don't know her THAT well you might be over stepping the mark and giving her an out-of-the-blue fright...
Seriously though, you want opinions and that's mine... I wouldn't do anything too drastic just yet... arrange to hang out with her more often, get to know her, flirt with her and see how she responds to that... if it's good - there's your green light!
Just take it steady, arrange a few dates, see how it goes then weigh it up from there.
I personally wouldn't know how to react to such a "declaration" but that's just me - even if I was absolutely crazy about the guy, I still reckon I'd be too embarrassed & self conscious to react well to it... I might even give him the opposite impression! But if we got to know each other beforehand, it'd be a different story ;-)
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