i m totally confused about what kind of realtionship i 'm having with this boy. i don't want to have a boyfriend as it would affect my studies. we just started as friends but as i got attracted to him he announced his love for me. so i told him to wait until i finish my studies. that was before 4 years.
but as time went on my so-called relationship with him became more strong and now i couldnot resist calling him atleast once a day, but still we are pretending to be friends.
he occasionally tells me how much he loves me and i also tell him how much i love him. but i have a feeling that he doesn't love me as much as he says. i always wanted a studious and an educated life partner. but as he is not so interested in studies, i thouhgt i could force him to study. i tried to convince him to study for the last two years but without any success. from what i have understood from that he never cares about my feelings and expectations. so do he really love me????
but now i don't is the right time to argue with him and i don't think we should pursue this relationship any further. because i m having my final exams with in the next 4 months. So, please give me a solution to this problem? Shud i tell him to froget about me and lead his own life or should i just carry on like this???????????????????????
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--- Sunday, July 10, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Shiru... that is an interesting relationship you have there.
If you are still just "being friends" - I would say that's what he sees you as... a friend.
What do YOU really want? You say that you shouldn't pursue this relationship then you ask whether you should tell him to forget about you... Is it that you'd like him to love you the way you love him and are too scared to push this further in case you get rejected?
It doesn't have to be "all or nothing". Why would he have to forget you if you are totally okay with just being friends, it doesn't make any sense.
Make the choice. It seems you can't carry on with the way things are... do you think maybe you should tell him how you really feel instead of hiding how you want this relationship to be? That way it'd give him the chance to pursue things further with you, if that's what he wants too.
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